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Hi everyone. This is the worst day for me, and instead of gi

Hi everyone. This is the worst day for me, and instead of giving up on life, I am reaching out for support. I am so alone right now. I've always wanted to be a mommy, since the age of five. Life did not work out for me the way I expected, as it does for many, and I wanted to wait until i had become financially and emotionally stable after leaving an abusive relationship before trying to concieve. But it's getting harder to hold out hope. We (my husband and I) have been trying for quite some time, less than a year to no avail, and another birthday is next week. I've had the most hurtful comments from my family telling me my eggs are too old, it won't happen I'm too old ( I'll be 37 next week), and maybe they are right.

I don't know. I just know that I've wanted marriage and kids all my life. It happened early for everyone except me. I went through a series of bad relationships, until about 30, one that eneded in a miscarriage from the stress at 22, and this last one that I still have nightmares from six years later. I've always been supportive of everyone, took care of my family when they needed financial support, I give my all in everything I do. Now it seems like the one thing I want, may not happen.

I am perfectly healthy, as is my spouse. I don't drink or smoke, have never been on BC, exercise and all things considered with family demands I keep my stress level relatively low.

I am trying to stay positive, but there is so much negativity surrounding woman my age ttc, and people, except for a few, are much less helpful to the point where I have become severely depressed when I see my period. It's like a part of my hope dies every month. I have lost the will to believe that this will ever happen. There is nothing I want more than to be a mother.

I am sorry to rant. I know my problem seems so small. Maybe it's my fault. I sacrificed my time to help my family financially and it cost me time to try and concieve earlier. I would have had a child, a few kids by now if I had made better decisions in my 20s. I have no one else to talk to who understands me. This seems so small compared to other problems women have in concieving, so I hope I'm not being selfish and wasting anyone's time. I just really want to be a mother.ive wanted it forever. Maybe it's too late and I put it off being a mother to everyone else.

I just know I feel completely hopeless.

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Jun 10

Youn has the really sad story. But you are not alone in this journey. Many people have gone through this situation. All we have to do is to be strong and search for the solution. But now there are many treatments through which infertile couples are able to conceive. Surrogacy and IVF are one of them. It's good that you try to stay positive. Age also really matters. Woman’s eggs get weaker, more she gets older. Mostly there are fewer chances of conceiving after 40. you have 25% chances of conceiving. But you can still have the baby through surrogacy. In surrogacy, a surrogate mother conceives for you. After the birth of the child, she hands over the child to you. This treatment is really good. Its success rate is very high. So I will suggest you go for surrogacy. It will really help you out. Stay blessed and positive. My prayers are with you.

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Jun 12

Hey! I am sorry that you are going through all that. And don't be appologetic over sharing your story. Everybody deserves a good listener. Albeit a partner or, thanks to forums like this, any human. I totally understand your situation. And you have every right to feel the way you do. But may I suggest you to not give up. People will always have a comment about everything. And mostly it'll be a negative one. Don't bother them. I have seen many women getting pregnant naturally after their 40s even. And, if for some reason, you face a priblem, you can always see a doc and get help. So many methods have been introduced to help women and men have their wishes fulfilled of being a parent. Just don't give up and look for a solution. There is always one.

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Jun 14

Hey, don't be upset. This s what we call life. It has many ups and downs. You have to stay strong during the downs. Don't lose hope. All that you have done for your family is some amazing. You are such a nice person. Don't regret what you did for them. They needed you at that time and you helped. This is so great.
If you cannot conceive naturally, there are many ways to help you. In this world of modernization, the medical field has advanced a lot. IUI, IVF, and surrogacy etc. These ways are here to help you. Just trying looking into them. You will find the best solution for yourself.
Positive vibes and strength to you. Baby dust on your way.

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