Trigger warning############# I took a break from h

Trigger warning#############
I took a break from here just to clear my head a little. My daughters still won't talk to me and I haven't seen my dog for a year. I used to look forward every day to coming home and see my silver lab Ella. I'm sure she doesn't remember. My stbx has turned my daughters against me. Life is terrible now. Now I'm back to planning my exit

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Oct 19

@Foundlove. They are 19 and 23 so it's up to them.

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Oct 19

@Supertech. I was very close to them until my narcissistic wife turned them against me. She is a bully and she knows how to manipulate them

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Oct 19

@Supertech. I’m sorry it’s so rough for you right now…do you want to talk about whatever happened with your family?
Sounds like you may have been hospitalized before.??? Whatever it takes to stay safe and get thru this is worth it—even if it means a hospitalization.
Life is about change. It wasn’t always this way and the hope is things will get better. You don’t control what your stbx says or does. Idk what she is doing to alienate your daughters…that’s tough to figure out and deal with. Do you have a family member who can intercede on your behalf?
Who could talk to your daughters and see how they think and feel, who could help you rebuild a relationship with them; if it’s approached as clearing the air it could morph into rebuilding. It could take time. It could take a year. Maybe more. While your stbx is on the way out the door—there are lots of other people in the world….why stay in misery over stbx when you could find happiness elsewhere? Stay miserably enmeshed with stbx dragging you down OR do what you need to get better, feel better, and meet people who don’t drag you down???? Many people have moments of depression at varying levels of intensity in life…At a bare minimum, I would think your stbx would let you have custody of the dog? Does she think it’s your dog or the family’s dog?
If that’s not going to happen right now…why not enjoy volunteering with dogs at animal shelter? (There was a shelter we volunteered at where you could sign a dog out to take to park etc!) you can still have fun with dogs…just not your favorite dog right now. (And that could change)
You know your life matters. I know it can get better (and God gives us challenges. When it doesn’t get better is where we get our strength and resiliency to weather the storms). If you are religious…or want to be…check out church/ get closer to God and hopefully meet nice caring people.
Hugs. Let us know how you’re doing. We care

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