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Okay, so I am under a lot of stress lately. In 25 and my wif

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Okay, so I am under a lot of stress lately. In 25 and my wife and i are about to have baby number 3. I'm working on beginning a legitimate career, but getting my foot in the door has been an exhausting process. Come November I can try again and hope for the best. Now my current employer has announced that severe cuts are being made over the next week. Our fleet is being halved and we are losing a substantial number of employees. Job security has just become nonexistent to some degree, and this is the second time it's happened when we have had a child. On top of it all I've been plagued with a problem lately. When I first started working I was in a situation where, being a Male I wasmt comfortable dealing with harrassment. There were a few women I worked with who would make comments about me, and at least one who would inappropriately touch me while at work. I laughed it off and made the best of the situation, and never confronted anyone. I didnt like what was happening. Having dealt with problems with myself in the past this behaviours made me feel bad. And ashamed. And now, years later I dont know if they did anything wrong since I never confronted them or told them how I felt about it. Now I have this resting in the back of my mind. I dont know how I'm supposed to feel, or if they were in the wrong and I dont want to take this to the sexual harrassment group and upset people who have been through worse because I dont feel like this is a valid complaint. Any advice from anyone? Am I wrong for feeling bad about it or should I just take it in stride?

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Sep 10

Thank you for validating me.

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Sep 10

Thank you. I can understand his position. If we had had an HR we probably would've been shut down. It was a crappy place to work but 18 year old me didnt care as much as I should've. What effected me about the situation the most was the preexisting issues I had with myself. But being talked about like that, while I learned to live with it was still embarrassing. And being touched was nerve wracking. One would make a game of it and try to do things to me while I was on the phone with customers. I've never been able to convince myself that I was or wasnt experiencing sexual harassment. But it was a part of what lead me to quit. That and a robbery. A 16 year old thug wanna be with a gun who decides to shoot at police really makes you rethink your current employment. As it is I cant do anything now. Even if I had done anything then it would've been pushed under the rug. It's difficult to think that as a guy I could experience that, and that's the same feeling management seemed to have. I dont know what to think about it, but that added to the stress of having another baby and trying to get myself into a career finally have really weighed on me. I'm having trouble sleeping. I overeat for a week and then undereat. My weight is all over the place and my self esteem is shifting like a kite in the wind. I'm terrified of the next few years. In 9 days now we will have baby number 3. I have 1 who turned 8 a few days ago, one who turned 2 earlier this year. And it scares me that in just a year we will have another mouth to feed (my wife solely breast feed for the first year). It adds to my daily stresses to consider all of that. Then I think about how selfish I'm being to worry about myself right now when so many other people are about to have a much harder time. I dont know what to do anymore. I feel like I'm adrift in the sea and I've lost all sight of land. Then they downsized at work. Half our company has disappeared, so now I'm worried about losing my job. I just dont know anymore.

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Sep 16

@CassieShannon I am grateful that she breastfeeds for as long as she does. I'm more concerned with after it ends. For now we have a year without needing to provide food for another mouth. Its after that that worries me. Things are going a bit better though. We started our new work arrangement today. I'm not sure how I feel just yet but so far so good.

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