Why can’t you be more productive? Faster? Smarter? Better?

Why can’t you be more productive? Faster? Smarter? Better?
No one will hire you.
You always mess up important opportunities.
No one likes your ideas.
No one likes you.
When these thoughts run through our minds, we assume they’re true. We take them very seriously; even though they are, in fact, false. Indeed, some negative thoughts are the equivalent of a party crasher or the drunken loudmouth behind you at the stadium. Maybe you already know your negative thoughts are inaccurate, and you regularly find yourself in a shouting match inside your mind, defending yourself from your own disparaging comments; or, you try to ignore your thoughts; however, they return with a vengeance. Either approach leaves you feeling awful. Because you end up at the mercy of your thoughts. So, what’s the solution? Fortunately, we can change how we relate to our thoughts; so instead of empowering the cruel, vicious cycle, we empower ourselves to go after our goals, bolster our emotional and mental well-being, and feel better overall. Remind yourself that your thought will eventually pass, such as: “This thought isn’t part of me, but I’m big enough to let it pass through me. I can watch it as it goes.”
Ground into the present moment by focusing on your breath and relaxing your body, such as: “I am here, sitting at my desk, and I am going to breathe in through my nose and out through my mouth, slowly.” Visualize the thought passing, such as: “There you go, thought. You were a dark cloud, but now you’re breaking up,” or “I’m watching that worry float by, like a leaf on a stream.”
When it feels like your thoughts are running your life and making sure you lose focus on what actually matters to you, remember that you aren’t helpless. You don’t have to argue with your thoughts or sweep them under the rug. You can acknowledge an upsetting thought as it arises without agreeing with it. You can hear it out, and you can send it away. After all, you are in charge and you are powerful. Just because we sometimes forget that doesn’t mean it’s false.

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CKBlossom's picture
Jun 30

Amazing the cruelty we throw at ourselves!

Marlene1105's picture
Jul 6

Yes it is indeed!


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