I found out 2 weeks ago that I am pregnant from a man I went

I found out 2 weeks ago that I am pregnant from a man I went out with 1 time. I told the suspected father I was pregnant, and he hasn't had much of a response and has yet to talk to me about what our future plan is, if there is one at all. Personally I would like it if he just stayed away, as I found out that some of his past lifestyle habits were a bit unsavory (addiction, divorced, father). I am nervous as to what he will say, and I am experiencing regular fears of becoming first time mother. Any advice to help ease my mind. Please no negative input. I am already an anxious mess

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San43's picture
[2750]
May 18

You can do this on your own. So many women do I have 4 and yes it's hard but it falls into place. If you just met him then you don't know him at all. If he hasn't even acknowledged that you are pregnant screw him. A baby is better of without a dead beat dad. You will meet someone else someday that will love to be in your child's life wait for that and stay strong.

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Daystar's picture
[6185]
May 18

I was in your situation 7 years ago. I got pregnant to someone I really didn't know. He's not been in my son's life much and to be honest it's far easier relying on yourself than someone who just isn't reliable. It was hard when I thought about how I'd been landed with all the responsibility for a mutual mistake but once I accepted it, embraced it and enjoyed it, it was/is amazing to have this little dude in my life. I think, for me, the worry and anxiety came from thinking too far ahead. When I brought myself in the right here and now there was nothing to worry about. If you want to, this could be the most amazing, rewarding, difficult-but-in-a-totally-beneficial-way adventure you've ever been on!

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[100]
May 19

It is hard facing this kind of challenge. I give you credit for telling the baby's father, now you need to focus on what is best for you and the baby. Being a single mom can be a challenge, but if you make your mind up, you can do it! I have been there and with a bit of perseverance, the rewards that await you are beyond imagination! Try not to spend time dwelling upon what the father is going to say or how he will react, chose to make the best life you can for you and your baby. Hopefully, if you place your focus on all the positive and look at the future optimistically, with all the joy and pride this child will bring to your life. I will be praying for you, that you have the support of good friends and family through this. That you find comfort and joy in your new news.

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