Today, I went to the mall to get my eyebrows done. I was doi

Today, I went to the mall to get my eyebrows done. I was doing so well. But then I saw a wedding dress store. I am about to get engaged, and I thought one look can't hurt. I saw a dress on sale, and out of sheer fear of not being able to find something better, I bought it. I couldn't stop there. The damage was done, might as well go all the way. I tried another dress. I knew I couldn't afford it. I bought it anyways, I didn't even love it. What is wrong with me? And I come to my mom's house to show her the dressed. She was heart broken. How could I buy a dress without her. It was so compulsive and stupid. Now I have a wedding dress and a mom with a broken heart.


Hi there, thank you for sharing your story. Congratulations on your engagement and I'm sure this is an exciting time for you- maybe you got swept up in that excitement in buying your wedding dress and the other dress and in the moment didn't think about your mom wanting to be there. I used to get my eyebrows done at the mall and interestingly enough, there was something about getting my eyebrows done and the rush of feeling great about my eyebrows that would launch me into a shopping binge at Sephora, Victorias Secret, and Macy's- I'd feel so glamourous and pretty immediately with the addition of perfect brows that I'd want to seize on the moment and shop. Needless to say, I haven't been to a mall in years and do my own eyebrows to resist that temptation. I know you love your dress, but is there any way to return it to make things right with your mom or another idea is to buy an after the ceremony/dancing reception dress with your mom so that she can be part of the process of picking out the dress? I'm sure you love your mom, and she loves you and I'm sure she'll understand if you explain to her that it was a huge impulse to shop rather than an intentional exclusion of her. I hope this helps and please don't be too hard on yourself- you're engaged and that wonderful and beautiful time in your life is supposed to be exciting and full of emotions and I really wish you a very happy wedding day when that day comes!

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Aug 8

@MiniMeltdown07 Thank you so much. It's so easy to get carried away at malls. I definitely don't want to go to malls any more. I was able to fix the situation with my mom, and we will be going together at a later time. She helped me realize how little self control I have. Any tips on developing self control?


@shoptildrop I'm so glad that you and your mom fixed the situation and will come back for wedding dress shopping at a later time! Tips on developing self-control: If I get really restless and want to buy something, I wait at least 2 days or a week and then revisit the item and if it doesn't cost less than the allowance I give myself in my head, then I don't get it. I run errands with cash to prevent going nuts in the grocery store or other stores I need to pick up things at. I am starting this month, leaving my credit and debit cards in my top drawer of my dresser and only shopping with cash- huge undertaking for me, but it will help me make an even better financial goal for myself this month and it'll help me not be tempted to pop into boutiques or grocery stores on my way to and from home or the gym. If I feel super restless and feel like my mind has to buy something, I tire myself out with an 80's aerobics VHS tape or I go to the gym and lift weights for an hour and a half- It's almost like an exorcise exorcism- working out helps my mind focus on my fitness goals and less on shopping. Hobbies like cooking, baking desserts, artwork, hanging out with friends and family etc all help in creating positive distractions from shopping, Lastly, unsubscribe from all marketing emails from stores- it'll free your mind from temptation whenever you check your in box. I hope this helps! Self-control is definitely tough, and some days are easier than others, but I've found the absolute key to controlling or reducing shopping is replacing that activity with other cheap or free hobbies every day.

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