I lost my husband less than 2 months ago after an extended illness. I am having such a hard time with all of this, seems like all I want to do is cry.
Mar 8, 2011
I'm so sorry. It's hard when you lose someone you love, especially those closest to you. I've haven't lost someone as close as a husband but I have lost closer family members. It's difficult to get through it, and it's always good to have a good cry, crying helps with the process of loss. It'll be ok, you can get through it. He'll always be in your heart and you in his.
Mar 14, 2011
Just read your post below mine and I want you to know that I know what you are going through all too well. It's now 42 days since loosing her and you would think that you cannot possibly make it through the pain but Chels you will. We dont know why God takes some home so early in their lives but we have to accept that he has a better purpose for them. I dont know your heart or if you believe in God but the bible says that heaven is more wondrous than you could ever imagine. And that their is no pain or sorrow there. So during my grieving time I stopped and thought for a moment and it came to me in a clear way. If heaven is without sorrow how wonderful is this place if the ones we lost don't even feel separation from us. Because separation would be sorrow correct? They are all simply waiting to see us again because they know we are coming home too. Try to visualize his happy smile and know that he is pulling for you and wants you to pick yourself up and move not "on" but forward...I am here if you want to talk more.... Scott
Apr 10, 2012
shbo9951, I only lost my husband two days ago, and I feel like you do. I haven't even had my first good cry yet. To tell you the truth, I'm afraid to start. But everyone keeps reminding me not to rush things; take my time, etc. I read something last night about taking care of your own needs, being good to yourself and take the time you need. I'm trying to, but it's so hard.
My husband had such a tender heart. He continually reached out to others and never hesitated to help someone who needed it. In 17 years of marriage, I didn't see it as clearly as I do now. He was often hurt and rebuffed, but he never stopped being kind. Starting now, I plan to try to follow his example. In my own grief, I've come to understand as I never have before, that NO gesture of kindness is wasted -- even if it doesn't seem so at the time. Do you think it might help you to feel less disconnected and alone to reach out to someone else?