Dementia starting in the late stage of COPD?
Hello. I have a mother with COPD. She is 66 and has been a smoker and lived with a smoker her whole life up until a year ago. She is in the later stages of COPD and has been diagnosed with Dementia and has had bouts of dementia over the past year but it has been pretty constant these past 4 months. Every time I speak with her it gets harder. It usually ends with me getting sad/upset or seeping into a depression for the day. My family is all in denial about it and noone likes to speak about it. So I thought I would find a support group online. I have been finding it hard to balance my schooling/work/personal relationships knowing I can't tell my mother about any of it without her getting confused. I'm now starting to deal with the fact that it is an illness that progresses rather than getting better. She has some good days but lately it's been more rare. I love and miss my mother. Even though she is still here with us, it feels that every day I am loosing her to this horrible illness. First it was her physical state and now it is her mental state. I'm 23 years old and I would never wish this on anyone. Thank you for taking the time to read.
Jun 3, 2012
Hi, my is Tina, and i have no ideal to do. My mom started out with copd and everytime we have to put her the hopspital Her mental state gets worst. we tried puting in a rehab for a week and when she got home she could hardly do anything for herself. I forgot to mention she is 82 years old. and never had heath proplems until a little over two years ago, copd. Using her neplizer & oxygen help that. But not she is starting to get perinod and not do anything for self. I have had to hide some meds from her cost she tents to take them too much. Also for got to mention She ended up with a blood clot in her lung last March. But I guess i could handle most of it with my sister and daughter. Now about three weeks ago he has stage 4 small cell lung cancer. So no to mention were all going nuts. But my mom has been in the hopital now 8or 9 days. And we not really sure what to do. Her insurce wil put her in a nursing home if there is possible for rehap, and were not too sure of that this time. Cause she is not holding glasses she canted eat by her self. Ive heard from on dr that he said that she is probably depressed but i would say that is opvious.But i kinda thinks we can start having her doing stuff for her self she might be ok, or am i dreaming. My sister and niece want to bring in hospice. So is there a chance that i could be wrong. i guess drs at the hospital did sign off the wont preform cpr on and im not sure if want them too. I just wish i could have a couple sentice with her again. Has this ever happeded to anyone? And thank you for listening! I was wondering is it time to let her go? Maybe she's ready, idk.
Jun 3, 2012
Welcome Tina, from what you describe w/your mom you may be dealing w/a combination of unstable issues along w/copd, quite possibly Alzheimers too, dementia is a first symptom w/paranoia & unusual behavior. Your sister & niece are making a wise decision in considering to hospice, they will be capable of guiding everyone through the long process of caring for your mom.
All my strengths.
Jun 3, 2012
My heart goes out to all of you. I am full time caregiver of my 90 year old mother. I am 64 and have struggled with the alcohol issue with my Dad. He died in the 70's. I was very conflicted and angry when he passed. I found AA sponsored a group for Adult Children of Alcoholics. I got support, u dersta ding and a safe place to vent. I was so relieved to find others felt the same way. You are not alone. Give it a try, meanwhile, take care of yourself. You are in my prayers.