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Greetings! I'm a new member here, & thank u kindly for the

Star888's picture
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Greetings!
I'm a new member here, & thank u kindly for the acceptance into the group.
A little about myself.. mid thirties, love to study, travel, & shop. I'd experienced sexual abuse from the age that is unknown, until I was eight for years by a cousin and three times by my best friend at the time, brother. I remember the very day that I put the abuse to end but was never able to talk about it.

Although, I've published a book, wrote many blogs, & attended support group meetings, at this present time/space, I am officially fearless, boiling inside, & ready for action. To be completely free from this dumb *** secret, makes me want to dance ( I know it's weird), but it is directly connected to stagnant behavior. It's not my intent to offend anyone with my word choice..

Anyways, I haven't visited "home" since I left there 13years ago for new endeavors. Question.
Has Anyone Confronted their Abusers??? One-on-One or as a Group???
xoxo

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Star888's picture
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Oct 14

Thank you for your welcome and response!

The only reason why I haven't yet confronted my abusers is because I used to care about what people might say about this truth and etc. At this point, idc what anyone thinks...

The sexual abuse will be passed on from generation-to-generation, and this I cannot Live with... There is a serious issue with myself not speaking out and the cycle of trauma will continue in my family unless I stand up for myself who will have children someday. I want to teach my children the importance of communication and build a bond of trust, something I did not have with my guardians. Besides my family is totally oblivious of my absence for years now, and it's not that I am looking to hurt anyone, but the truth will set me free, not them. The cases considering politicians, priests, or the common people is shedding light on 1 in 3 girls and 1 in 6 boys are sexually abused by the age of 18 in the U.S. Most will not speak out because of the stigmas attached.... I recall asking my child abuse group facilitator, why do so many people remain silent? Her reply was, if they would speak out, then I wouldn't have a job.

Meanwhile, I sympathize in your case. BUT You have the right to do what's best for you.

xoxo

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initwithyou61's picture
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Oct 16

So proud of you for wanting to be a part of stopping this cancer that seems to have taken over our society. As you said, priests, politicians, etc. etc. What our country needs to understand (and maybe they're beginning to) is that sexual assault is not just rape. Sexual assault is any form of sexual language, exposure, behavior, etc. that is inappropriate and that is forced on the victim against their will. I worked in a grocery store when I was younger. I was stooped down in front of a shelf and a manager came over to me and said, "While you're down there . . . " Then he laughed. I was so innocent and naive I didn't realize until later what he was suggesting. But I know what you mean. This has to stop. Sending hugs and prayers that you will find the courage and strength to do what you have to do.

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Star888's picture
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Nov 24

I will work on being more present and active here due to your kindness, and thank you again for this engagement. I realized after posting the last comment the difficulty with sharing this with my family. At this point I'm still hiding from the past in my own little way, and I have no real plans on bringing it up unless someone actually reads part of my life's work online. Anyways...

Its unfortunate how some people cannot control their impulses, and younger individuals are the most targeted, it's sicking. I think what's missing the most is awareness,, such as inappropriate sexual advances toward children. I lost count how many times I was targeted as a child, so much that it had transformed the notion into a normal, reactionary behavior in boys/men.....which is not true to say the least.

I hope that your'e having a good weekend?

Best

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