Annoyed. I have a problem where I cannot stop thinking abo

I have a problem where I cannot stop thinking about sex. I mean its at the level now when a woman walks by, the first thing I look at is her shape. It is very consuming in my life to the point where if I do not "fix" it (often several times a day), I feel anxious and frustrated. This is not healthy, it affects how I communicate with women (I have no issues talking with guys about anything), I see women as objects at times, and I get very impatient when talking with them and the conversation is not going anywhere.
I have tried this nofab trend but I can only get to a maximum of two weeks before I relapse. I see a therapist once a week. I workout 4 - 5 times a week for about an hour in each workout. And I try to consume myself with a lot of work to distract those thoughts, both at my day job and after work with independent studies. These bad habits still seems to creep in and play havoc with my life. Is there any suggestions that does not involve using meds or chemical castration of any kind.

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Jan 30

@Junior3391 Well if the problem was to escape social anxiety from work, or having a stressful financial situation and you used sex or pornography to cope, I would begin by solving those problems. If it's social anxiety, for example, try to tell yourself that you are allowed to talk to people if you want; if you mess up, or stutter, or appear awkward, that's fine, you can try again tomorrow. For a financial situation, avoid sex and be practical. Reassure yourself that you CAN take care of this. You can focus on it without becoming so miserable you need sexual release. It is not out of your control, and you don't have to let it demoralize you.

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Jan 31

@Mo66box Good comment and reasoning. In youth, I think if there is a great deal of stress at home and there is very little self esteem due to home life. When we are young, finding an outlet that makes us feel good, is inevitable. Whether it's alcohol, drugs, sex/masturbation and so on. Oxytocin is a very strong hormone. And released during sexual activity. It makes you feel good, though short term. And if all you feel is bad about yourself. It is easy to rely on.

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Jan 31

@Junior3391 I replied to your message...


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