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I know all the traumas and childhood abuse/neglect is a part

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I know all the traumas and childhood abuse/neglect is a part of why I have struggled with low self esteem...but I just want to knock the feeling of not feeling pretty enough, of not being able to speak up when someone tries to say something bad to me or attack me I just freeze and can't move or speak. And also, I do feel partially responsible for all the sexual abuse, no matter how many times I have told certain people in detail what happened and they tell me I didn't have any fault. I don't want to feel ugly, less than, or like I am stupid and powerless anymore.

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Mar 15

I’m just exactly same as you

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Mar 27

@Sosh2018 Thank you for having the courage to share your story. I grew up experiencing abuse too. I overcame low self-worth and a heightened stress response through my faith in Jesus Christ. You have keen insight into what is holding you back from healthy self-esteem. Awareness is the first step. The next best step may be a counselor. A counselor can help situate the abuse in the past, where it belongs, so you can have freedom from the effects of it. I like the idea @ester14 had about stepping outside of your comfort zone and trying something new. It will open you up to meeting new people and give you the opportunity to build healthy relationships and learn to trust again. Just as surely as abusive relationships have tremendous power to wound the soul, so healthy relationships have tremendous power to nurture and heal the soul. And when you realize what you are passionate about and develop it, you will gain more confidence too.

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Mar 27

Hi Sosh2018,
I am so sorry you feel that way. I know all too well the feeling of not being good enough or pretty enough. It seems like everyone around you gets hit on, but you or people don’t even acknowledge you?!! It is an awful feeling and I know because it happens to me all the time, I am not skinny & to some not that pretty!!! And that’s okay, I like me and that’s all that matters!!! You have to find confidence in yourself and believe in you whether or not no one else does!!!! It sounds crazy but you have to start believing that you are beautiful, pretty, & attractive!!!! Only you can change you and if people don’t, screw them, they are the ones with the problems not you!!!! You need to journal and start saying positive affirmations to yourself! Hope this helps....

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