I have never tried any kind of support groups before so I gu

I have never tried any kind of support groups before so I guess that means things have been pretty bad for awhile now. I am hoping to find people out thier who can relate. I have been married for many years now and the last couple have been so very hard. I have explained to my husband how I cant help but feel very hurt and full of anger and resentment, in which case I have brought up divorce but he will not accept divorce as an option. It is not that I want to give up. I love him and I care about him and I want (and have always wanted) our marriage to last forever but we have been trying for years now and it has only gotten worse over time. He wont change and even if he does, sadly at this point with the way I feel now, it may be too late. I am too hurt and even though sometimes I want to, I can not trust him anymore. He has taken away who I am...my reputation is gone. He has brutally slandered my name to my family and his and I dont want it to hurt me anymore but it hurts me so badly. I just dont understand it. I feel that he is not the same man I married long ago. We have been struggling so hard in our marriage for a long time now. I dont know what to do. My parents divorced when I was very young and both of my step parents were very abusive in different ways. I dont wan my kids to suffer through divorce and I want to protect them from even the possibility of a step parent coming into thier lives. I am so sad but I have nobody to talk to about this. I dont trust anyone and I will never be able to understand how everyone just so easily believes every horrible, discusting thing he has said about me. Especially my family. They should know me, they should know who I am. Sure I am not perfect but at least have the decency to come to me and ask what is really going on instead of so ignorantly believing every discusting thing that is said about me. There is so much more but there is not enough time to go on. I am hoping to find other people out there who are going through or have already gone through a similiar trial.

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Oct 14

I am so sorry you are going through this. Your mate is unquestionably wrong for doing such backstabbing.
Divorce is rough. It is hard on the kids. It becomes an emotional and financial roller coster.

Here is a great read I wish I had read back then.
https://www.jw.org/en/publications/magazines/g201002/i-want-out/#?insight[search_id]=1a5e6b40-3f2e-4636-8434-0168d43e17f5&insight[search_result_index]=4

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19 hours ago

@PieceByPeace Hi. I am sorry to hear that you have experienced this. I was a stay at home mom for seven years and had no friends to socialize with during that time. I was always stressing over what little finances we had and the fact that we were having a hard time paying all of our monthly bills...I dont know the exact reason why but eventually I had started to feel very isolated and became depressed. My first thought process was that I needed to do something for myself that would be stress relieving so I started going to a women's fitness center. That is when my husband changed. He made me feel bad for going to the fitness center for an hour a few times a week. He would be very angry when I got home and he acted as though he had been home with our kids all day when it had only been an hour. Because past abuse from my step mother (13 years of it) I felt very angry and upset at his behavior toward me and in turn became defensive about it. I couldn't help but think, "Wait a minute. I am # years old, I am an adult and I will no longer be told what I can and can not do."
I have only had one session with his counselor so far.....it was last friday. I am going to go every friday. I was and will remain completely honest with them. I met with the counselor and an hour later he said, "Can you come back later?" So I went again, on that same day for another hour and a half. The counselors response was, "I am sorry to hear that it has gotten so far to this point." And I said, "I am too." :[ Thank you for responding.

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19 hours ago

@WoundedDuck Thank you WoundedDuck. I will give this a read.

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