How do broken people actually find their sense of identity a

How do broken people actually find their sense of identity again? I can't find an ounce of self esteem and I have trying to do exercises that build self esteem and confidence but when it asks me what my talents, interests or positive qualities are, I have nothing. I am not finding anything remotely positive to put on these questions. But I have a notebook full of negative things I feel about myself. When my husband told me a few weeks ago that I wasn't the same person I used to be, it lit a spark. Like I had completely forgotten and lost who I was. I began looking at our pictures and videos of myself and the memories (some) came back and I was dying inside. I know I'm capable of getting something back about myself but how do people actually accomplish this?

Comment
 9
View 6 More Comments
[160]
Feb 18

Thank you, Rick. I had maybe 4 items listed on my positive side that I wrote the day after I started the list. They were the basics. You could see that I believed them that day by my handwriting. The negatives were sloppy and nearly illegible. The positives I wrote the day after were uniform and calm. I know we are never the same each day, but the days are rare when I feel anything positive about myself and future.

Reply
rdpca1's picture
[20750]
Feb 18

@Harley2578 You are trying and that's the most important thing and to give yourself patience, it takes time to regain like it did to lose and the positive days will be more and more often. This group and sites have helped me a lot with this and think they can for you too

Reply
rdpca1's picture
[20750]
Feb 18

@Harley2578 I also like this list it's long enough I can't remember them all :) so I have to check it every so often, good reminders... Hope you have a great rest of weekend.
http://www.hungryforchange.tv/article/22-habits-of-happy-people

Reply

Login or Register

You are visiting Support Groups as an anonymous user.

Please consider joining our community and gain access to additional features by

registering or logging into your account