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So me and my girlfriend well my fiancé has been together fo

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So me and my girlfriend well my fiancé has been together for a year now and ever since she moved in things has been going up and down. So apparently my fiancé has this thing where im suppose to pay her car insurance, her car payment and keep her car maintenance.. she doesn’t believe in 50/50 in a relationship... when i was working i was doing all the spending for going out to eat and having a good time but when it came to asking her what we gonna eat or what we doing today she always say she not spending money on food or she has bills to pay. Now lets talk about present!! February i received my taxes and my shoes ive been wearing is literally taring so i went out and bought me new shoes, filled her tank all the way up and the rest of the money i had i was buying us food out so now my taxes is gone.. and her car is acting up, her engine light is on and she needs 4 new tires. Well now im getting called a useless *** man, aint **** as man & a no good *** man because i got my $290 tax return money and didn’t put it on buying her all new tires. Can someone or anyone tell me what to do ?? I think im wrong but at the same time i think she’s using me to just save money and get further in life

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Mar 16

@JoshClark96 I'm sorry. I just now read she is pregnant... That is a rough spot cause u seem like a nice guy. How did u get involved with this girl and her family? Do you have any family?
Do u go to church?
It's hard to make a lot of change in a relationship... I tend to think it's easiest to work on one (small) thing at a time...
Maybe you could get some counseling at church. No one should be forced of rushing to get married...as u said. Lots of people have children and are not married to each other.
Glad u are reaching out for help and support. We r here. We care. Most of us want to see u happier in a healthy relationship. IF THAT IS WHAT YOU WANT.

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Mar 19

@JoshClark96 ok I understand you want to be there for your baby but do you want to keep staying with her or have you thought about not being together and co parenting

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The best advice I can give is when I moved in with my now ex we had to take a period to learn each other's habits. No relationship is ever 50/50 when we started out I was like you paying for everything, doing all the cooking and cleaning. We sat down had a talk and once he got some work he started contributing financially and things got better but at the end of the day I was the one doing the most but we made it work. A relationship is about compromise, if you can't compromise leave child or no child... It is not your responsibility to be her father. Also if you are not ready for marriage DON'T DO IT. I told my ex we had to get married at some point (we were together for 9 years) he clearly never wanted to get married and just said yes to please me. We both ended up miserable in the end. Ended up cheating on me with an ex so guess what? I left. I have no regrets because I know it's a better option than being in a toxic relationship. I know you probably want your family together for your first child but it's not going to help anyone raising her in a toxic environment. Do what's best for YOU and your daughter.

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