My partner revealed to me that he has been using webcam site

My partner revealed to me that he has been using webcam sites for a year or two. He watches webcams, but prefers being on the webcam while strangers watch and chat. He has lots of followers on his webcam profile. At first I didn't really care because I'm pretty open about sex. However, I felt pretty hurt that he hid it from me for so long and insecure that maybe there was more. I asked if he had ever cheated on me and he said no. I asked 2 more times the next day because I was still feeling weird about it, but he assured me that he never had been with someone else in real life. Then, I looked at his messages (which I had never done as I had always trusted him, but now the trust had been broken.) I saw that mere weeks ago when he was travelling he had gone to a girl's house and fooled around with her. He was following her on social media and they had been liking each others photos. I confronted him and he apologized and said he was scared of hurting me and felt like an idiot. He wants to work it out. He blocked her number and her social media. I still feel so betrayed - he has been keeping so much from me and lied to me to my face even when I asked directly. He actually got a tattoo from her too so every time I look at him I see this stupid tattoo immortalizing their time together. He has been an amazing and supportive partner up until now and I can't imagine my life without him (and he seems sincere about wanting to fix things). But I feel like I would be a big idiot to stay. What the hell do I do?

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flower90's picture
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Jan 15

@Bast8848 Well, I thought we had a lot of trust so him lying to me makes me feel like this whole relationship is a lie. Him being with someone else makes me feel inadequate and disposable. I'm feeling a whole lot of different negative feelings.

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flower90's picture
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Jan 15

@wifebetrayed99 Also - I'm sorry you're still being lied to. It's so hard to not feel stupid for staying - I sure feel like an idiot right now. It makes me think I'm just a doormat that will take anything. I'm trying not to look at it that way. I know things aren't that black and white.

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Bast8848's picture
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Jan 15

You are not worthless, this isolation can lead to a very dark path. It would be cool to reach out to trusted people :)

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