My girlfriend and I have been sexless for 6 years and I am r
My girlfriend and I have been sexless for 6 years and I am reaching my breaking point.
My girlfriend and I have been together for 8 years and for the past 6 we have been having sex or doing something sexual once every month to 6 months, it varies greatly. We had sex pretty often when we started together, then she had a drop in libido about 6 years ago and here we are. She went to a doctor for hormone testing, nothing seemed off to them and overall she has some physical and mental health issues but she doesnt think its causing libido issues. We have tried some libido boosters, and we found one that works really well but she said it was too much and she doesnt like feeling forced to feel that way which I understand so we agreed its ok to stop. However, I have a very high libido, and I have expressed this many times. We have talked a lot about it and she says there is nothing wrong with me that its just her, but I have tried to improved regardless. I have always been open about how beautiful i think she is and I make sure to tell her everyday, I also make sure that I try to get her out on dates and to have fun but she is kind of reluctant about that stuff. I keep the bedroom and house clean as well to make sure she is in a good space. I also workout to stay in shape, I try to cook although she likes to cook sometimes, and I looked at online tutorial for cunnilingus and sex to make sure that wasn't the issue, I always make sure I'm well groomed as well. I don't really know what else I can do to help her feel attraction to me, I don't think I'm ugly or anything but no matter what I do nothing helps. I really love her, I don't want to leave her so I'm looking for answers that will help. I have talked to her many times about how important sex is to me, but she doesn't like the idea of getting me off just because I want to, if she doesn't feel in the mood so I guess I'm looking for solutions that work with all the parameters I laid out.
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Sillywoman
Sillywoman
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Mar 19
Hei cptmorgan, I almost see myself in your post, you are probably doing even much more than what I do and try, therefore I will take your post as an inspiration to be more supportive to my partner. My partner struggles enourmously with opening up about his lack of interest in sex. He gave me millions of short explanations that don't add up (once it was the stress, once it was because he is not 16 anymore, once it was because he gas never been too much sex-driven...) I feel like there s a specific cause and he won't discuss it. If I had to exclude the possibility of affairs, I really believe that his medications are putting a toll on his libido (both the need for sex, the ability to maintain the erection more than 3 min, and the ability to orgasm). He had used beta-blockers in the past and now he is on SSRI. He doesn t want to talk neither about his anxiety (even thoug It's not really visible from the outside), neither about his meds. Since august 2022 we had sex 5 times and I suspect he fakes the orgasms. I just cry everyday, especially when I wake up in the morning, even before I open my eyes completely, I am already crying. Please, somebody tell me that thete is hope with this problems, I read horrible things about ssri medicaments and- I don't want to make further preassure on him but- I would like him to drop it for a while...I would like him to be "normal" again.
@Sillywoman some antidepressants have more side effects than others. Celexa and Lexapro have far less side effects compared to others.
Sillywoman
Sillywoman
[55]
(55)
Mar 19
@Fohb460 I read quite a bit on internet about the one of my partner and the lack pf libido/ED is always mentioned, but maybe he could try something different if it has minor sude effects. This morning I found the courage to mention the "problem" with him. I hope I can have a productive talk with him today after work.
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