Me and my wife have been married for 3 years our fourth anni

Me and my wife have been married for 3 years our fourth anniversary is on the 21 of this month. When we first dated it was all good, I messed up a lot I was still having sex with my ex, talking all types of nasty stuff with other woman. She cheated on me too. She is everything that I dream of. The b first couple years of our marriaged it was rocky. Since we had been married I have not been talking to my ex, and I have been on chill mood. I've been careful what I say around people, and keep everything at a friendship level. She is at the point where she doesn't care anymore. She still tells me she loves me. We hug and kiss every now and then. She tells me she know it's going to be a another woman or my ex that I will be talking to and that's when she knows it's time to go for good. She tells me she is not happy but in the mean time every marriage has it ups and downs. I pray everyday about this and I'm not throwing in the towel I have always fought for what I love. Can anyone give me any advice?

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Sep 13

Man this is tricky since both have cheated it's like she may project her guilt and such

ToughCookie99's picture
Sep 13

Just based on what you have said, the trust and respect is not there which is the foundation to any relationship. My advice if this is to be taken seriously is to get some much needed counseling together and actually get an action plan in place which will give you clear outline of what is expected of both of you and get a common goal to strive toward which is very necessary to get back on the road to recovery. Saying you want something and doing something about are two different mindsets.

86Pookie's picture
Sep 14

Yes I know I'm trying everything in the book, she keeps giving me the cold shoulder. I was asking her about her birthday yesterday. What plans what would she like to do. She stated a girl's night out, and she wanted to eat in peace. I have this nice romantic dinner in place for our anniversary and everything. She's giving me that I don't care attitude, and everything else. I tried talking to her about counseling but she never wants to go. I don't want to loose her she's my world and I love her to death. I'm tell her we need to do some serious talking. We have to put it all on the line.


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