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Is it bad to doubt about my husband, I really have this feel

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Is it bad to doubt about my husband, I really have this feeling, and things on my mind that he is cheating..
Weve been married for 11 months now, at first everything is just fine with me .. but now im starting to get tired of it.. our situation is like this.. He always have his privacy , he clearify it to me since we started dating, i cant touch his phone , he said he hates it, and he dont he dont like being told he don't like to be treated as inferior, I mean he always want to be right and he always want to be followed.. it was okay with me at first as long as he loves me and faithful and honest with me.. i love him and he loves me thats all that matters to me.. but now that we are married 11 months , it still feels like im not a wife.. He's smart and wise and its good but it makes me feel like im dumb and stupid, i guess i am he always tell me that I am , and i guess its true, but the more im feeling that way the more it hurts me, he always make me feel like i have now right to say something because my ideas are stupid that i better just be quite and say nothing.. and i cant tell him about what i feel cause we will only argue for nothing.. he still now gonna change.. he always win.. I believe him all the time,, Im a person who dont like fights so i just let him be that way and just move on... he is a good man.. only he has bad temper, he is perfectionist , he gets frustrated quickly when i messed up even just in small things,, like i bumped into someone he gets mad and tell me im so careless that I need to me mature and be like him.. .. we are very opposite.. but I love him he's the only man who put and effort to have me and the only man who think of marrying me.. Im lucky .. but sometimes i feel hurt, because of his personality.. but he is sweet when he wants too.. he alway yell at me when hes saying something and cant get it quickly.. but he apologize after and i just accept it.. but.I know its wrong to feel this way. But im getting tired of him treating me that way , it always happen again and again.m yell at me then appologize .. but whats bother me more now.. it feels like hes cheating .. i know its bad but icant stop thinking about it.. we barely have sex.. once a month .. and we never had sex for more than a month now. Then the other day I tried to he said he cant because he has and infection on his private part he said its because hes eating bad.. by the way hes 35 and im 25.. but he never got infection before .. . And also he dont want me to use his ipad.. the last time i remember he said he forgot the password on his ipad anc he cant open it , but he never forget his password.. and he covered the camera on it.. but it still connected to the wifi when he just change the password for the internet.. it shouldnt be connected and i also remember i caught him sleeping in the sofa with the ipad . I looked for him ib the middle on the night because he wasnt beside me its unusual. He never sleeps there . I ddnt asked him why the nexy morning then he just said he was trying to fix the ipad and played also with the cats and he fell asleep there. I just said okay.. i dont want to confront him about it because we will only fight and its not gonna help.. I know this is not healthy .. but i just really need to light up my mind..

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BrandnouX's picture
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Dec 2

I’m sorry you’re going through all that. Trust your instincts. My person was almost like yours. When we first starting dating he would ask me if I need passwords to anything because he’s a really private person in which I was like okay, everyone deserves privacy so it makes sense. For a very long time I trusted him even when I felt like he was being sketchy. Until one day a girl said something to me then I confronted him about it and I still trusted him until a male co worker said something to me. 2 different people back to back..I was done. I hacked everything I could and I there was a lot. I should of trusted my instincts. I knew private people are private because they’re doing dirt well in his case it was true . He was talking to other girls more than likely hooking up with them as well. The messed up thing is he gave me herpes at the beginning of our relationship which I still have trouble accepting and moving on. I’ve only been with 3 men. Him being #3. When I saw them red flags I should of ran for the hills. Instead of giving him a chance to hurt me. And now I love him too much to go anywhere and he knows it so he mistreats me. Our relationship isn’t the same and even after everything he put me through he has the nerve to flip it on me talking about he can’t trust me! Lol what a clown! Y’all married, if he loves you he should be open enough to ease your mind and do what it takes to make it work so if he don’t I’m sorry..

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Dec 2

It sounds like he is not serious about you, I say you should try to ask him why he lies so much and try and step back

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BrandnouX's picture
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Dec 2

From what I’ve gathered up it’s just him. He’s always been a liar even about small things. I’ve witness him lying to his friends and family about the dumbest things. I asked him why and he just says he doesn’t want to talk much he just says what they wanna hear and move along...I’m sure we learned at an early age that lying is bad but I feel like he was taught to lie to get what he wants. I grew up in a neighborhood that his father worked at as a maintenance man and no one liked him. People say they would have things go missing when he goes fix things and he steals from the community as well. My parents had things go missing to and dad doesn’t get along with his father either..but his mom is the complete opposite. Very honest and respectable but from what he told me he spent a lot more time with his father. Idk..but I feel like go lies to get what he wants no matter what the cost is. He’s selfish.

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