I'm struggling a bit lately with my marriage. My husband's b

I'm struggling a bit lately with my marriage. My husband's best friend cheated on his wife and they're divorcing. The soon to be ex wife has been contacting my husband on snapchat a lot all of a sudden. He says she just doesn't have any friends but she never once contacted me. He says I am just seeing the worst in people but I say she's using him to get at her cheating husband. I just can't help feeling angry. At her. At my husband. I can't help but feel like this is going to end badly and he's letting it happen. I don't know what to do. There's more context obviously but that could go on and on. I just needed to get it out before I explode. Thanks for reading.

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Feb 11

My wife and I took a "Covenant Marriage" class early in our marriage. It took a long time to work ouot many of the principles in our marriage but the bar was set - we knew the vows we made and there were lines we would not cross. If he knows he has to meet you at the altar it is a serious deterrent to acting out on temptation. Also outside influences play a part in the actions we take. Sorry I expressed this so clumsy - I hope you get what I'm trying to say. I worked on construction projects out of town away from my family - the rest of the guys spent their money and time after work in the strip bars and wh*rehhouses; the flag girls were just as bad. I had to determine to keep away from temptation and keep my vows no matter what was in front of me. I don't know that i could without my faith. Truth.

Feb 14

Hi @hjki I'm sorry you're having to deal with these emotions and I do understand your concerns. I think as women we do have an instinct when things are not right. Hope you don't mind me asking but apart from this situation, is everything fine with you and your husband?
Sometimes situations can also arise from other underlying issues in a relationship that has not been dealt with it. If this is not the case, I would suggest you don't let this situation bring a divide between you and your husband. Instead maybe tell him that you would feel more comfortable if he includes you in any contact he's having with her or maybe you reach out to her and offer a listening ear or support instead of your husband.
I know how you feel about just wanting to vent, I feel like that sometimes too.
With regards to church, hope you find one soon that you can connect with. My faith and church family has been a great blessing to me through some stormy times in my marriage. Wish you all the best.

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Feb 15

Maybe she wants to know what your husband knew about her husband that made him stray. Perhaps you could all meet out together and allow your husband to answer her concerns. I know some guy friends lookout for each other when they out a a bar or sport event and temptations arise... reminding each other to put family first.


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