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I broke up with my boyfriend of two and a half years about t

I broke up with my boyfriend of two and a half years about three months ago. We were long distance about a year and a half, but saw each other most weekends after having lived together previously. I broke up with him because I thought I had fallen out of love with him. I started to not want to take the long bus ride to see him and became interested in other men (never cheated though). I agonized over whether to break up or not because he is the sweetest guy in the world. But now, three months later, I find myself not attracted to anyone. Most days I’m fine by myself, but sometimes I have days (like today) where I miss him so much. We still talk occasionally and are on good terms with one another. I guess my question is, is it normal to feel like this several months after a breakup? I’m unsure if I want to get back together with him because I would be afraid of feeling the same way that caused me to break up with him in the first place. It also isnt feasibly possible because I’m moving away soon which would make the distance significantly worse. I’m always anxious about the future and feel sad that I may never see him again. I’m also worried about not being able to find a guy who loves me and treats me as well as he did. So I don’t know if I made a mistake or did the right thing

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Dana15's picture
Apr 16

Nobody is perfect. Even people who fall madly in love to start with end up having to work through all their differences. You will never find anyone who is exactly the way you want. There will always be things you do and don't like about them. Most significant is does he fulfill your most important needs: identify what they are. Eg you need someone stimulating who keeps you on your toes..but he doesn't. You like him a lot..but is there a spark..even a little one. You need someone who works hard..but he doesn't. Another thing to ask yourself which can help you know is: if next time I rang him and he told me he had met the girl of his dreams..would you feel a sense of loss. Or be indifferent about it. From what you wrote my feeling is you are only missing him because you have no one in your life at the moment. Not a reason to return. But a reason to work harder at meeting someone else.

luna1994's picture
Apr 16

Don't worry about dating for a while til you feel your ready to move on if you get another bf too soon you could end up more hurt then you were before best of luck other wise


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