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TRIGGER WARNING Hey guys I have a question, is it conside

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TRIGGER WARNING

Hey guys I have a question, is it considered rape if a person is consenting to sex if a condom is involved, but the person who agreed to use a condom doesn't? I don't know it's just been pondering my mind since my last risky situation in which involved my latest rapist two years ago in November. I was in a very vulnerable situation after my break up in which led me to that apartment. I have legitimate reason to think he's stalking and when this happened on March 8th he told me he didn't want to lose me again which is why he wasn't using a condom. To be clear I never consented to no use of a condom, in fact quite the opposite I kept asking if he was going to put one on. As soon as I asked that he whispered in my ear I don't want to lose you again and knowing his agenda I'm not sure what else he's capable of. However, after all I've been through with law enforcement in this town, it's best for me to keep myself safe and not be involved. Let me know what you guys think, any advice is welcome as I said before I'm not reporting because of bad blood with law enforcement in this town.

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BlackLily's picture
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Apr 17

@Poodlelove I mean I did give consent, however I only gave consent if the condom was there not if it wasn't. Therefore, it is considered rape in the definition of stealthing. I mean as I said before even if it was the flipside of things where the woman said she was using some form of birth control and isn't then that should be considered as well. I will be honest I don't have all of the answers, I'm human just like you and question things myself the majority of the time. I apologize for lashing out, I've been highly emotionally vulnerable lately. I'm thinking about when I see my therapist on the 3rd about getting on something because this proves I definitely need it. I hope you guys can accept my apology.

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Apr 19

@BlackLily
No need to apologize.
Medication can be very helpful.
I don't know what I would do without it.
Even with meds, life can be difficult to maneuver. But, the meds do help.

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Apr 20

@Poodlelove I agree I just have to wait until the third to be prescribed some.

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