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I'm o.k

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I'm o.k

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[180]
Oct 9

I try to set boundaries but that man set me up. I didn't give him a key. He kept saying I'll go get your dog and I'm like no. So I go get my dog and let him walk her around the block, then he kept insisting on letting her in my apt and I'm like no and he kept on insisting. So after like 5 or 6 minutes he still didn't come out. I go directly over and ask him what he's doing and he's like oh I was trying to find out where to put the leash. Bull hockey. It was just over 6 weeks ago he tried to beat his own little dog. And his girlfriend was trying to distract me saying oh he just loves dogs. I was totally fooled once again.

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Oct 10

Yeah setting boundaries and standing up for myself has helped me a lot with PTSD symptoms. I guess it is because it makes me feel more powerful therefore in control and safe, rather than like this whole world is going to walk right over me and I have no choices. A great book on how to stand up for yourself is, "The Dance of Anger, a woman's guide to changing patterns in intimate relationships." Now this book is good for men and women, good for anyone - not just women. It has a funny tittle because it is an old school feminist book, but really changed my life in terms of not letting people take advantage. Bottom line, just say no! No is a complete sentence! You have a right to say no! Don't let people like that have an inch or they will take a mile! Don't say yes to anything you don't feel good about saying yes to! It will mess with your recovery just to have those feelings of violation bouncing around inside of you. And you might end up having something really bad happen to you, like loosing your dog or something horrible.

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Oct 10

Gotcha. I will get it. I'm staying completely away from him and his girlfriend. I will get that book. Because I won't talk to them anymore which is my next door neighbors they are completely confused and have asked me what is wrong and it's simple. I don't want them to inch their way in anymore to continue to take advantage of me. My Psychiatrist told me to make friends, etc and I stay to the fact I can't trust anyone. I loaned that couple money and they havn't paid me back and when I do ask the guy acts like a complete ****. I left another state to start somewhere new and I'm doing my research to get away from this one. I'm learning to spot this kind of stuff and take care of me first. I should have spotted the signs but people are very manipulative.

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