I have returned to this group after taking a break My SO has

Dani2019's picture

I have returned to this group after taking a break My SO has been buying pepper guns in fear of a civil war. He has ptsd too but will never claim it. Has been in war zones. We make good money together but his purchases have caused some financial issues. This issue with him traumatizes me. Many arguments over this. I quit watching the news. Today in our home he was checking a new purchase and it discharged . I have never been exposed to it.I survived bacterial meningitis of brain. in good health but this was a seizure trigger from the oepper spray eye irritant etc. I texted him the data. When I returned home my eyes mouth became irritstted again. There is a cleaning protocol for this for our house. I began but called him to tell him. He said dont be so dramatic. was an accident. he decided to sell the gun but believes I never supported him in this. I am a retired nurse. was an RN. I will never again discuss medical issues. He does not believe the data. I did not this time argue . He believes I am the problem. I expected my woman to support me in this- was one reply. another was I will not be told what to do. I was afraid of something goung wrong with his ideaology. It did. any comment welcome. I know this is a turning point and wake up call. He is a good man despitr this. He will not get help. I do.

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constructionjim's picture
Nov 22

Are you sure it's PTSD? Almost sounds like he may be Narcissistic..... everything HIS way. And of course, he could be both.

Dani2019's picture
Nov 23

I am not sure. I see aspects of authoritsrianism refusing to see or accept that facts exist as well as other beliefs. I lost emotional control last night doing the cleanup was yelling. We talked todsy. He has done the same thing in the past to me. He is not going to tolerste this anymore. Dont blame him. However he was not willing to look at the gun discharge as a nother trauma for me. At this point I dont want to be near him much. my feelings are the next time I dont meet his expectstions- even if I dont get upset- he will lesve. We both conyributed to this ongoing issue. Bottom line he is not gping to change. I am still on that journey. I will never stop.


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