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*I do not meant to trigger anyone by posting this, just post

*I do not mean to trigger anyone by posting this, just posting my feelings* So after being up at 5 like always, i started my morning routine. once some stuff was done my child and I watched some movies on disney+ and dosed off. only for like an hour and then we were both up and ready to eat. well while i was asleep i had a dream where i basically pushed my mother in law over the railing of a balcony. the dream took place at a nice hotel so im assuming we ( the family) were on some sort of vacation or trip. ( back story all my " dreams " take place else where never where i live..) well anyways she kept doing as she always does and tries to control everything and was starting unnecessary drama. and i had had enough. i rushed at her and pushed her over. theres many more details as far as what led up to it, but theyre personal. when i woke up and realized i was with my child and had to act like i didnt just have the craziest dream i knew i needed to come here to vent and see if someone else could make sense of it. i pretty much thinking its because i have SOOOO many unresolved issues with her that i dont deal with out of respect for my significant other and what she has helped us with. but aside from all that she doesnt know her place and that doesnt excuse her behavior. her help wont make or break anything like she thinks anyways.

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Dec 2

@NCMom thanks for tour comment! It’s been 5 years of a never ending cycle. I’ve tried all those things, and it won’t hurt to try agin. Once things die down and I can see her less and less it’ll help. She has her own issues and no one can be happy if she isn’t. If she sees happy couples she has to make a comment and you can tell it’s envious. But I will try making the lists and will let you know how it turned out !

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Dec 2

@VictoriaJ1996 Oh my gosh—5 years!!! Maybe take a kickboxing class and think of her-lol.
Definitely ask her to babysit while you Christmas shop; Altho maybe even invite mom in law over to make cookies with your child...

IF she does anything you like or kind toward you...acknowledge it. Do t be over the top—but u can say-“thx so much for...that made my day today!” Giving mom n law positive reinforcement for anything she does that u like//ignoring the rest.. u are taking the high road in the relationship but u do have to get your feelings and your stress out

Invite her AND lots of extended family to gatherings—-allowing you to be social and enjoy and not trapped with her!
Always remember. U can’t chanfe anyone else-they have to want to change and change themselves. You CAN change yourself... don’t talk to SO about it much more as he may be telling her and inadvertently fueling the fire...
Keep me posted. U can get through this

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Dec 2

@NCMom I’ve tried all that and she’ll respond in a positive way, but it doesn’t last long. Whoever will kiss her butt is who she treats good and that’s not me in the slightest. Yes and she doesn’t seem to want to. That’s what’s been hard. I’m changing and she’s still small minded. So my attempts don’t get far. So I just stopped. But I’ll try again. And yes I don’t tell him anything. She has him and his brother brainwashed. Anyone that isn’t them and her is wrong. ( why none of their relationships last ). Thank you SO much ! I will send you a private message with the updates.

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