Hi guys, I was wondering if anyone can help. I suffered narc

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Hi guys, I was wondering if anyone can help. I suffered narcissistic abuse from my mother all my life. I've had the same recurring nightmare for over 20 years - I'm 30 years old. I dream something/someone is after me and I'm fighting them but I always make a conscious effort to wake up because I know I can't defeat whatever it is. When I was 13, I dreamt my mother had turned into Voldemort from Harry Potter and I ran away but I had nowhere to go. I've been constantly anxious for about 20 years, I'm always on edge. I think I suffer from depression as well. I'm not sure - are these symptoms of PTSD?

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Nov 17

@selkiegirl Hey I find music is very healing, I listen to all sorts and the right song/piece at the right time make it all better for the time being. It's not permanent but at least the rush I get listening to music takes me out of my head and means I can think things through a bit more rationally and it massively reduces anxiety. I would recommend music all the time. Dancing is also really good, coupled with music it's fantastic cos you're focused on the music, any strenuous exercise is good, cycling, running, tennis anything that is hard work releases endorphins and stops you fixating on other things. Brisk walks in the fresh air and countryside are great.

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Nov 17

@Hopeful_100 Wow, thanks, it's nice not to feel like I'm crazy and I'm not alone, other people have similar responses. Sorry you're having similar dreams too, they're scary. I know I'm terrified of confrontation in reality, I wonder if that's what's being manifested in my dream and yours? Any advice for nightmares? Have you been trying anything?

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Nov 17

@LizzieBoo that's great insight that it may mean fear of confrontation. I have that too with certain people due to being ganged up on if I stood up for myself in the family of origin. For nightmares I really don't have any tricks other than try to process some things in your waking hrs s so your subconscious doesn't have to do all the work. I have periods of time where nightmares stop and then they start up again. Also read spicy foods and pizza can make your dreams weirder. For me eating sugar or fruit before bed makes them worse. You may want to look into essential oils but these are toxic for cats so keep that in mind if you have one. I sleep with my cat in my room every night to relieve anxiety.

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