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Hi guys, I was wondering if anyone can help. I suffered narc

Hi guys, I was wondering if anyone can help. I suffered narcissistic abuse from my mother all my life. I've had the same recurring nightmare for over 20 years - I'm 30 years old. I dream something/someone is after me and I'm fighting them but I always make a conscious effort to wake up because I know I can't defeat whatever it is. When I was 13, I dreamt my mother had turned into Voldemort from Harry Potter and I ran away but I had nowhere to go. I've been constantly anxious for about 20 years, I'm always on edge. I think I suffer from depression as well. I'm not sure - are these symptoms of PTSD?

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Nov 17, 2017

@Hopeful_100 Wow, thanks, it's nice not to feel like I'm crazy and I'm not alone, other people have similar responses. Sorry you're having similar dreams too, they're scary. I know I'm terrified of confrontation in reality, I wonder if that's what's being manifested in my dream and yours? Any advice for nightmares? Have you been trying anything?

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Nov 17, 2017

@LizzieBoo that's great insight that it may mean fear of confrontation. I have that too with certain people due to being ganged up on if I stood up for myself in the family of origin. For nightmares I really don't have any tricks other than try to process some things in your waking hrs s so your subconscious doesn't have to do all the work. I have periods of time where nightmares stop and then they start up again. Also read spicy foods and pizza can make your dreams weirder. For me eating sugar or fruit before bed makes them worse. You may want to look into essential oils but these are toxic for cats so keep that in mind if you have one. I sleep with my cat in my room every night to relieve anxiety.

Nov 23, 2017

It's possible that it can be PTSD. I used to have a recurring dream as well from my abusive past. It didn't stop until a year or so ago when I discovered the root cause. Part of it was fear and anxiety but the root of it was severe stress. What helped me was forgiveness and learning to live in peace. It's definitely not easy, but it has helped me tremendously in so many areas of my life. I feel like I'm actually living again. I don't suffer from depression anymore either. I'm 29, and for the first time, I actually feel like an adult. If you still live with your mom or see her often, I would encourage you to speak with her about how you feel. It may not make an immediate difference, but it will be liberating for you to speak what's in your heart. But I caution you to do it with compassion. I had to learn how to speak with my own mother that way. I had to see her as a woman and individual and take into account her own abusive past. It made it easier than operating under the false notion that she should be a "motherly" mom and not a human being. If that makes sense?

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