Hello,my wife has this habit of cleaning house,kitchen and b

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Hello,my wife has this habit of cleaning house,kitchen and bathroom all day and cannot take any task in hand without completing it fully.she also gets angry and used abusive language if things dont go as she says.what should i do as she refuses to accept that she has any problem.

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May 14

Does she feel she needs to do this every day or is it just once or maybe twice a week? Is she getting angry and using abusive language all the time something isn't done her way or are you just talking about the cleaning? Regardless it does sound like a therapist would help you and perhaps she'd be willing to go along with you to a session or two also in order to get the therapist's perspective. If this is a relatively new behavior for her was there anything that may have triggered it? (Any kind of change - even a good one?)

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May 14

It is a daily routine she has to do of cleaning all the things and keeping it utmost neat ,she cannot tolerate dirt. Even if she has to go out she will get late by half to one hour completing the work at hand and cannot leave it midway.it is become a routine for more than five years (or even more)now even before we were married and i came to know about this condition only after we married recently.she has a doubting nature and will doubt on small things and assume that a person is doing it this way or thinking against her and starts using abusive language for that person.she wants things her way and as she expects if not she gets angry and if anyone has given her commitment and does not fulfill it she gets angry.it is not a new condition and her family members are dealing with it since long but they are also clueless about what to do.she does try not to get angry and control her outburst but she says all this just comes and later even cries.she is a divorcee and at a early age she was divorced and had to give her child to her ex husband ,so may be because of this it might have effected her. there parents deny that she is suffering from any illness and just say that she gets a bit angry.

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May 16

@Mezzi I'm sorry she seems to be so obsessed about the cleaning and dirt as well as her thinking people are doing things wrong or against her. That is very hard to live with, especially when the person does not think they have any problems. Can you find a therapist or counselor to talk to about how to deal with it all? That would help you and then maybe, like I said before, she'd be willing to come too - even if its to show her that you're not telling lies about her!!! I do hope you and she can get help.

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