Hi All, Its been a while since I've posted on here I used t

Hi All,
Its been a while since I've posted on here I used to be TravelGal...
I'm in a quandary its been over 2 years since I have separated from my Narc. We have gone back and forth with massive bouts of silence from him. I finally gave up and decided he would never change and I had to let go. I decided at Christmas to go back online to start getting back out there , I've met a lovely guy, very early days. My Narc was back in the area last weekend and ask to meet for lunch I told him no, and that I was moving on and starting to date again... This caused massive rage, and some truths to come out about drug use and drinking, and how he cannot cope... I really don't know what to do as I feel guilt ridden for both him and the new guy I have been on a couple of dates with. I don't want the N back but I also find it very hard to be mean to him and do see him as a troubled sole! has anyone been here ? what did you do? How do you manage it?

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May 20

If their mouth is moving they are lying. They are master manipulators in every way. They want you to lash out at them. They love tearing you down. They are the crazy ones. The minute I realized it was a narc was the end for me. The thought of it makes me sick to my stomach. I too felt like it just wanted to be heard. I defended it so much to everyone while all along it was trashing me big time behind my back. They are sick things.

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May 20

@Lesliekess62 I think you're right. In the 3 years we were together I met his friends once or twice, I was evil... they didn't want to know me. Life is tricky at the best of times without additional stress! I do know I became codependent and that's something I had to deal with ...if I had a wand I'd fix them all and make them more human x

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HeartnSoul's picture
[10825]
May 20

The narc I was with would actually let his flying monkeys text me and pretend it was it. They re ruthless. It would read our text out loud. They need to keep up there appearance. They are truly sick. It's family loved me though which just enraged him more. I had to cut off contact with every single soul we knew in common. It will start dumping its negative energy else where. I heard that the married couples that were it's friends have started dumping it. They could not believe the way it trashed me behind my back. Let it dump somewhere else. It's the only way to expos them. It tried to tell me I was co dependent. I told it it was gas lighting me. It said I'll drop your stuff off. It did drop it on my porch. Right down to the cotton balls. Lol

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