I wondered if anyone has any insight into the narc harem. My
I wondered if anyone has any insight into the narc harem. My ex is a very clear high end Malignant Narcissist. I know that they like to keep all sorts of supply on hand, so my ex narc's pattern makes total sense to me now. He always had about a dozen woman hanging around in the back ground. Many were ex girlfriends, some were friends and some I would assume he would hope they would be more than friends. He used these woman for attention and sympathy and to triangulate me and confuse me and for sources of supply during his silent treatments while smearing me. That all makes perfect sense to me now based on his pathology of a typical narc. What I am confused about is this. Did none of the others in the harem know what he is or figure out his game? This is someone that I can never ever have in my life or let near me again that is how dangerous he is.....so I am confused why the past girlfriends would want to remain friends with him. There is me and one other person about six years ago that had to get rid of him completely and I am assuming she new something was up.....but there has been about 8 woman between her and I that remain "friends" with him. I suffered so much damaging abuse from this man. Did he not do that to them? Or perhaps they were not close enough or around long enough to figure him out? Anyone else confused about this or have any insight?
@tryingtorise Do NOT provoke him in any way during any arguments. Remember you should not be in saving the relationship mode now......you need to be in saving yourself mode.
@tryingtorise, good advice, mine would restrain me using prison techniques and I was covered in bruises, poor excuse for violence, I left my husband of 25 years for him 3 yrs ago, sold the house and over 3 yrs he like a parasite Helped me spend £110,000, I have £2 ,000 left and he is driving around in a new jag courtesy of me... do I care? Right now , NO, I secured a a 1 bed flat rental and used my last 2,000 to start making it home, I'm going through hell, it hurts like mad, I hate myself for missing him, but I am glad not scared,anxious and with him, day 2 no contact ! Pure evil ... look after yourself .
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