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What are the most ridiculous things you all have been critic

What are the most ridiculous things you all have been criticized for by your narc? Here is a short list of the bs I dealt with on a weekly, some daily, basis: I take too many baths (his reasoning: I must be upset if I want to spend that time alone). I drink too much wine (we are talking 4-5 glasses over 7 days) so I must be bored in life to "turn to alcohol." I apparently flirt and have slept with anyone that I have ever spoken to. I mean...everyone. Too many people have my phone number. If I dress nice and fix my hair, it is because I want attention. If I don't climax during sex, I must not be into him anymore. I baby my children too much. I smile too much and people get the wrong impression. I use too many onions in my spaghetti sauce. And my favorite...I am actually the one that has been unkind to him.

What in all the f*cks?

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[119185]
Dec 11

@daisy182 Yes, it does sound as if you’re making great progress. I’ve found that thinking about the superficial, unimportant things as being clutter, has helped me put things in perspective regarding the important things in life. If I get stressed over something trivial, I remind myself that it’s not important; it’s cluttering up my life, so just toss it out. Keep up the great work!.......

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[119185]
Dec 11

@sadhusband Thank you!... I’m glad to hear my comments have clarified things for you, somewhat. The hardest thing is to endure abuse on a daily basis and distance yourself enough to not take it personally. It certainly feels like a direct, personal attack on you; like a character assassination, a stake through the heart. But it actually is the narc assassinating his/her own character by projection. It takes great strength to use gray rock, and not take it to heart. But it’s the only way to have some peace while living with a narcissist. The abuse is not really what the narc thinks about you. She is only trying to provoke your negative emotions to supply her with emotional energy that she does not have. It really has nothing to do with your character. The more you can step away from the emotions (and like I’ve said, it’s very difficult) the less drama, and the more peace you’ll have in your life.......

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Dec 11

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