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Sorry folks, I have to vent now. So as you may or may not re

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Sorry folks, I have to vent now. So as you may or may not remember, I was getting my house ready to sell. Difficult being as I have crippled up knees. So my husband (a narc) has been helping me get the house ready. We live in the middle of the desert. So naturally we have low water maintenance landscaping for the most part. Part of that is wood chips under our hedges and other strategic places to keep moisture in after our bubblers water. So one of our spaces was empty because the plant died and he had to fix a sprinkler. After he fixed it he decided to take some wood ships from under our hedges, which need them for moisture and put them in the empty space for aesthetic purposes. Okay, I get that you wanted to move them to a useless place for eye catching reasons. So whatever. FIrst he disappears for hours pretending to get dirt to put there. Who knows where he was maybe flirting around our neighborhood or getting high again. Whatever. I don't really care. What pst me off is he lies, says he never moved the wood chips. He says he got the wood ships from the planter, which I know he did but he lies and says he never took them under the hedges when he clearly did take them from there and there was a trail of wood going from the hedges to the area and he tells me it's because it blew there from the planter where he was moving them. Um, no, you're lying. You took the woodchips from my hedges and put them in a useless place that doesn't need them and now the hedges will most likely die or I'll have to water them twice as much for NO REASON. But the stupidest part is he can't just say, "I moved them over here. Sorry I aint movin em back" That's what a normal person would have done. Or maybe "want me to move these over there?" Or "Mind if I move them over there." No instead he insists on lying about it like a two year old saying that he did't move the chips under the hedges and says he doesn't know where they went. So I said, look, lets go out to the hedges. And I said, "where did the woodchips go?" He says the wood chips are still there, see the leaves are still on top. And I said, no actually I noticed the leaves were gone too and was amazed at how well they were raked away. How does a 54 y.o man get to be that age and need to lie this way? It's absolutely insane. This happened at our old house too. One day, he took an outside door and switched it for an inside door. And I was like, "why did you do that. The paint will peel because it's the type of paint for interior and this is a rental so the landlord will get angry. He sat there and lied til he was blue in the face and still to this day claims he never changed the doors on a house that wasn't even his. It's just further confirmation I'm doing the right thing, selling our house.

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Jul 15

I'm sorry.

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[226525]
18 hours ago

@FreakedOut2019, No I should apologize. See, I was pretty freaked out that night I thought he let someone in the house while I was gone. So I jumped to paranoid conclusions (easy to do with a narc). I shared these paranoid conclusions with you and others here, and so you had my mindset from what I said about what he did. I later asked him, "why was the key taken out how it was?" He said he was scared, now that the new neighbors moved in next door, that they may be like the old ones who were bad people. So he was afraid they'd try to break one of the glass pains in the window next to the door and stick their hand in and take the key or turn the key to unlock the door so they could break in. I felt really stupid because I had to say he was right that a bad person would do that. And when we moved into our house the realtor showed me the woman that sold us our house had the window shutters nailed shut. These were french windows that opened like shutters with screens so you could let the cool air in at night during the summer. But the former owner was afraid the teenagers next door would break in. So she nailed them shut. So because of that my husband thought these new teens next door might break a pain to get in. : ( Because the owner rents to bad people over and over again. Long story. I should have explained afterwards.

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18 hours ago

@FreakedOut2019, the reason I was interested in dissociation, and other identity disorders was because I used to be a counselor and had to study mental disorders. But for a long time I got out of that field and so when I last studied about it, Dissociative Identity Disorder was called Multiple Personality Disorder. Things are constantly changing in that field. I was thinking about getting back into the field but can't absorb when I study anymore. However it never keeps me from fascination in human nature and these issues. I do think you're right though that is how he hooked me, by my fascination with psychology. It's what a narc will do. They will keep us guessing or trying to solve the mystery or puzzle over why they're doing what they do rather than just getting away. My exit strategy has been in the works for some time now. Plans I can't get into that much because I'm spied on here. Narcs spy on their sources of supply too because it gives them control.

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