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So I let him back in September, I believed that he had chang

So I let him back in September, I believed that he had changed and things were to be different. Last Fri morning I woke up at about 5am to notifcations on my phone of 2 purchases of Uber rides about 45$ and 40$ taken out of an ATM. He had been gone from about 4am and returned a little after 6 am. He handed me the 40$ telling me he was going to buy cocaine but his friend only had meth so he left and came back. I felt mad, upset and stupid. I told him I wanted him out, hes saying no. I had to get our 2 daughters 7 and 14 to school so i brought them, he kept calling and texting me over and over the whole time. I went back home to get lunch for work, he comes out yelling at me and punches my drivers side window. I go to back my car and he starts yelling i ran over his foot, and runs in house saying hes calling cops. I called one of my friends and she calls the police. He then tells me that he did again and says come in house and we will wait for them. They show up and he starts freaking out. by then its 11am, I know he had been drunk but i believe he was high also even though he didnt spend my money. He made me stay in house for over an hour thinking the police would just leave. He then gets arrested. He was released yestereday with terms to not contact me until court date which is in 3 months and he has to see IOP Intensive outpatient eval by fri and have an appt for psych eval by fri. Now he is continuosly bothering me!! Why can’t he just leave me alone right now and get the help he needs!!! Now he’s saying stuff about my 14 year old that she’s doing bad stuff. I have talked to her and have read her phone, and to be honest I think he’s making this up to get me to answer him. he’s driving me crazy!!

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kelly72's picture
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Apr 28

@Cindysmilesagain I so agree. Also, @ccgirl1975...your daughter is going to completely disown you someday, maybe soon. Please strong up and show your girls what tough is! Be fair to yourself. You know you and your girls deserve better than this. He's very dangerous. More than you're even admitting to right now....you have to know this. Be strong, block and stay blocked. Prayers and hugs. Please stay safe.

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May 15

@Cindysmilesagain @kelly72 he left for Delancy street which is in NY about 5 hours away from where I live last week. I went to the court date the day after he left for the final restraining order. (My abuser) did not show because he went to the rehab from jail. He knew about the date, the judge set another date and extended the temp restraining order till the next court date because he didnt show?!? I dont know why he was handed the papers and knew about the day. Now I have to wait till July 31st. And also I was supposed to get his taxes but stupid me put a stop on child support prior to me doing the restraining order because he told me to and said that we were fine and he worded it all good of coarse that stupid me did what he told me to do! He basically had been living we me and the girls for free from Feb until I did restraining order at end of April. Freaking $5200!! Im going to child services today they said something that I could file a petition to the court for it. Hopefully a judge will listen, probably just see what a stupid person I am. Before he left for the place he from what i was told was he will give me 300$ and thats it! THis "rehab" is for 18 months! So now he gets to go "focus" on himself while i am here as usual struggling to keep my house. Hes saying he needs the money more that I do. I hate him!! seriously! I have his daughter! Im still paying daycare! And extra payments for medical, because she has extra issues. Its just not fair.

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May 15

@ccgirl1975 I am very sorry for all of this but 2 things I'd like to point out....1. You feel stupid for having fell for his games and scams, natural, BUT call it done right here. I'd seriously pack up and go away so he couldn't find me when he gets out. Being afraid to move or do anything to save yourself or the innocent children is letting him continue to call the shots. Take charge of this. Consider it a blessing he's going to be out of your life. He's trash! 2. Why do you have "his" daughter? Is she YOUR daughter, too? If she's not your daughter (even if no one else will care for her), she's not your problem. I would be sympathetic to the child but it's not your responsibility to be her free/unpaid foster parent. That's giving him what he wants. And btw, he's always focused on himself...no one but himself. That will always be that way no matter if he were in rehab or on the street. If she is your daughter, that's a different story and you have rights to assistance if he's in rehab. But, I'd still consider moving and starting over or at least making sure I had no way to be contacted by his sorry useless butt. Best of luck.

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