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Nearly two weeks since I've moved out. He's behaviours are b

darwina's picture
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Nearly two weeks since I've moved out. He's behaviours are becoming more bizarre and vindictive by the day. I took some furniture from the house to use. He pestered and harrased me about me "stealing his stuff" so much, that I ended up paying a removal company to take it back. I kept one bed (I have to sleep somewhere!) and he has been driving me nuts to get it back, even though he doesn't need / use it. Up to yesterday he sent me constant texts and voice notes. Saying the same stuff over and over. Saying what a terrible wife I was. How I'm keeping an innoccent child from his father (I'm not, but I currently have him the bulk of the time as I'm the primary caretaker). He has been relentlessly pestering and badgering me for my exact address becuase he wants to see "under what type of circumstances his child is living" (as if I'm keeping him in a drughouse). I started ignoring his constant messages. It was literally driving me to tears and dark thoughts. It got unbearable. The constant "ping" of my phone countless times a day. Then after ignoring him yesterday, he "warned" me that if I don't reply, he will block me. I didn't reply, so he blocked me on all mobile and social media. At least I have a little peace now. He loves threatening me with a snarky "you'll see what my attorney sends in my letter". I feel like I don't even know what it's like to be happy anymore. Everyone else is already in holiday spirits. It's summer here and everyone seems so cheerful and excited for the season. I just want to crawl into a hole and never come out. Also feeling financial pressures - I'm on my own now and stbx is unemployed so no contribution for our son yet. :-(

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Dec 6

The nice aspect is you don't have to worry about being raped by him. You are certainly seeing first hand what kind of a person he is. He is still angry that you left while he was gone. Consider it a blessing that you can't see his social media posts. I would also block everything he has blocked, then block the phone. Give him your attorney's address, force him to go through the attorney. If the harassment continues, see if you can get a protective order. You wrote "Everyone seems so cheerful and excited..." The holiday's are one of the most stressful periods of time for the year.

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darwina's picture
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Dec 7

@Ducktape If we didn't have a child together I would block him on everything, but we need to make arrangements. Yep - whenever he acts out I'm like "And that, folks, is why I left..."

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missm0lly's picture
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Dec 7

I agree with Ducktape. Keep as much contact and conversation through your attorneys and look into getting a protective order. I know exactly what you mean about everyone being in the holiday spirits and just wanting to escape it all. My hope for us is that this time next year will be so much brighter!

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