My mom is a narcissistic person... it has nearly torn my m

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My mom is a narcissistic person... it has nearly torn my marriage apart but I feel guilty and mad that my wife won’t let my kids visit my parents over the holidays even just for a few hours supervised by me... is it worth saving a marriage with a trade off being not allowing my kids to have a relationship with their grandparents? I think I will regret it forever and my therapist said short supervised visits with them pose no danger to the kids in my situation?? Could really use some input, I love my wife and she loves me but hates my parents. It will plague me if they don’t know their grandparents but if we separate I will loose so much of a relationship I love and so much time with my kids that I cherish so much...this is one of the hardest decisions I have ever faced

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Dec 8

Have you thought about what your life would be like without your marriage and where that would put you and your kids? I hope you can open the communication lines between you and your wife and come to an agreement. Maybe you could stop by for a visit after going to the other side of the family. The kids deserve to know both sides and also they deserve to have all of the love they can get. Praying you can find the right path to take for your family.

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Jan 7

My husband and I made an arrangement he was never to be limited seeing his family on holidays (just our kids) and then he often stopped by to see his parents when he drove through their town on business. Maybe you and your spouse can come up with some sort of compromise that would work for both of you. I hope it works out for you. I'd be sad for a family breaking up.

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Jan 7

@Sssteeprock, you may be able to at least keep your kid's relationship with your parents other ways. Can you have your kids call their grandparents now and then, send them a card or gift, etc. That's what we've done so my kids still have some semblance of memories of their grandparents.

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