My husband and I have spent a few days together 2 last weeke

jadedtothesoul's picture
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My husband and I have spent a few days together 2 last weekend and two this weekend which have been ok, I don't trust him and I'm not sure really what he is up to. Today his daughter called to wish him a happy Father's Day while he was at my house and he answered it I was sitting right there and he said to her I'm visiting the dogs and I couldnt hear what she was saying they talked about 10 minutes and not even 15 minutes after that he said to me "you know what I would like" and I asked what, he said he would like to have the dogs stay with him on the weeks he isn't traveling. I told him I needed to think about it and he asked why I told him the only time they have been away from me is one week every year when we have gone on vacation other then that "I" have been there caregiver and then he said well at least one and he wants to take the oldest one so he doesn't have to worry about the crate with the youngest dog and I said no she keeps the younger one calm when I'm at work and that the younger one would freak and bust out of her crate. Then I just came out with no it's not going to happen I don't feel comfortable with it and besides you said you couldn't move in with me because you wouldn't be able to take care of the dogs all day so why would you want them there.

He has spent the night at my house (and yes things happened) I asked why he didn't say he would like me and the dogs,why just the dogs? He said you said you're not ready to even see where I live and I said that's right what would make you think I would be ready to let you have the dogs, I couldn't trust him to give them back and that would destroy me and when I said that he said do you really think I would do that. Ummmm that would be a yes.

Why did I get weak????

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sunnidayz's picture
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Jun 19

It seems that they always have something to dangle over our heads........whether it's a weekend away, car repairs, wine and dine us, money, etc....when I left this LAST time (MAY 31st) and stayed with a friend psycho-narc was going to take care of my Pug until I found a place to live that I could have my dog but I was terrified he would hurt her or it would just be another reason I would have to see him again so I had my daughter watch my dog. I have blocked him on my phone, yahoo account, deactivated FB, and like a cockroach he gets thru somehow and e-mailed me on my icloud e-mail yesterday..........
"Sorry things turned out like that!"
Really?? I broke my lease to move in with him in March and then he kicked me out on May 31st, I had no place to live and no extra money.....DO NOT BELIEVE THEM.....they want to destroy you....Please help me to be strong and never go back....19 days free and it feels so good!!!!

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jadedtothesoul's picture
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Jun 19

@sunnidayz they always find a way to contact you. I'm sorry you got stuck in such a mess I have been there like that in the past sleeping on family's sofa and down to owning a suitcase full of close. :(

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jadedtothesoul's picture
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Jun 19

@Ducktape he said he is going to adopt a dog and have a dog sitter when he goes away.

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