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Aug 13

@StillStandingMF hahaha!!!

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Aug 13

@Wayne127 married 17 years to my narc husband. Guess it was always there just to blind to see it. Plus he was a workaholic so he was never around. Then 5 years ago he lost his career, his mom died, dad gets a girlfriend 40 years younger who was a prostitute then the dad died. So I feel he went off the deep end about 4 years ago. I tried to get him help. Didn't work. He started verbally abusing me nonstop and then I figured out who he really was. Tried counseling to no avail. He quit after 4 sessions because nothing is wrong with him. On top of all this, he's obsessed with getting older. He never thought I would get older (I'm 48) and constantly tells me how gross I am, old, fat the list goes on and on. He's perfect though and deserves someobe (hot and young as he says). We have 2 young kids together so I'm scared to leave for what he will do. But that's no reason to stay. On paper my life looks perfect. Spend one day, and it's easy to see his evil.

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It doesn't take long for the evil to show through does it. And these perfect people in our lives, how blesses we are. Mine is also obsessed with looks and getting older. I'm lucky that she doesn't criticize me until I bring up a fault of her's. She tells me how good and perfect I am and how she prayed that someone like me would come in to her life then here she goes about everything I do or say. For example she has a new car and another like new sports car that I paid for. I think I've driven them maybe twice. If I ride in them I cannot let my shoes touch anything but the floor mats and cannot let my head touch the headrests. Both have leather seats. I have a new truck that we drive all the time and she gets fake tanning lotion on the arm rests and console and doesn't think anything about it. I finally brought it up once when she was poking me about something. She says it's different. She's a workaholic also but it's obsessive cleaning. She quit teaching when we got married and has only worked a couple of part time jobs of 15 hours per week since and has not worked at all in 1 1/2 years. We sleep seperatly and thank goodness I have a refuge to get away from her. Yesterday I worked on the house building a deck and she worked in her flowers. We were both busy and I told her I would go pick up dinner but she would never agree on my suggestions and would not tell me what she wanted. When we finished and cleaned up I told her we would get whatever she liked and went to the basement while she got ready. An hour later she yelled at me that I had the tv to loud and she couldn't hear hers which was in her bedroom. She wasn't even getting ready to go. I just got in my truck and had dinner where I wanted, came back and off to my refuge. She once woke me in the middle of the night to go stop the noise the rain was making dripping into the gutter while it was raining. We just have to find peace in all the drama until hopefully it is one day better. As you know he is far from perfect and it won't take long for anyone to figure that out.

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