Just got out of three years with my narc. Been in no contac

Just got out of three years with my narc. Been in no contact for 2 months. He would not get a job, introduce me to his parents, and had an apartment down the street his parents paid for he never, ever went to. No friends from the past...constant silent treatment if I got mad that he drank every night until 4am. He trained me like a dog to take his verbal, financial, and emotional abuse. I would be so happy he would talk to me again after weeks of the silent treatment if I complained I forgot why I was mad in the first place and enabled him again. He said he wanted to marry me and adopt kids with me...but now I realize he was just using me. Will he try to come back?

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[70]
May 18

You guys are wonderful. Thank you so much. I know time heals all wounds...but this, as you all know, is that gutteral pain that I know will take extra long...

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May 19

@lizziebitz yeah, it might, but do you know what? when you get to the other side of this gut wrenching journey, and you can see him for what he is and not feel that horrible pang in your gut because of what he did to you, and know that you survived and are probably a much stronger person for it, it's kind of empowering in a way not a lot of others can relate to, again, unless they have been through it.
I hope that day comes soon for you, but keep strong, and it will come,....it will be so good to put it behind you :)

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[70]
May 19

yes it will. thank you so very much. strength to us all!!

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