i've been asked to go on a walk this saturday with someone n

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i've been asked to go on a walk this saturday with someone new. i'm excited, but nervous. nervous that my codependent mind isn't any better than when i was with the narc. like i'll get duped again. it's simply a walk. a time to get to know someone a bit better. but part of me is feeling the past. some of me is feeling ready to test my new boundary skills. i at least have better language tools to express these concerns. and it's somewhat pointless to ponder anything beyond the present. again. it's just a walk and talk. just thinking out loud.

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Jan 11

@foreverandever
Good job! There are so many weirdoes's out there in the world that you just can't tell the sane from the insane anymore. It's hard to figure people out. When the time comes for me to start dating again (I hope soon), I'm going to keep my options open and legs closed.

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Jan 11

@foreverandever Good for you, sounds like you controlled the situation really well. You were genuine and polite, i hope she at least responds to you, you certainly deserve that, if not, then that is her issue .. Good luck

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Jan 13

follow follow up. i think i may have been tripping. we met last night on a work project and the energy was fine. she is willing to 'know me more'. which is a welcome feeling. still unnerving to witness these doubtful thoughts cast upon innocent people by my out of control thinking. most people are cool. most people are kind. not all of what people say is lip service. slow . baby steps. heal.

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