I wondered if anyone has any insight into the narc harem. My

I wondered if anyone has any insight into the narc harem. My ex is a very clear high end Malignant Narcissist. I know that they like to keep all sorts of supply on hand, so my ex narc's pattern makes total sense to me now. He always had about a dozen woman hanging around in the back ground. Many were ex girlfriends, some were friends and some I would assume he would hope they would be more than friends. He used these woman for attention and sympathy and to triangulate me and confuse me and for sources of supply during his silent treatments while smearing me. That all makes perfect sense to me now based on his pathology of a typical narc. What I am confused about is this. Did none of the others in the harem know what he is or figure out his game? This is someone that I can never ever have in my life or let near me again that is how dangerous he is.....so I am confused why the past girlfriends would want to remain friends with him. There is me and one other person about six years ago that had to get rid of him completely and I am assuming she new something was up.....but there has been about 8 woman between her and I that remain "friends" with him. I suffered so much damaging abuse from this man. Did he not do that to them? Or perhaps they were not close enough or around long enough to figure him out? Anyone else confused about this or have any insight?

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[5525]
2 hours ago

@pickone This is great! I have been no contact with ex narc for almost four months now after almost two months of on and off abusive endless emails as he refused to have a conversation on the phone as he said it was his way of getting me to "stay on point" (pompous a@@ cough). During our relationship before I knew what the heck this was I told him endlessly (because I was always breaking up with him over this stuff or he was giving me the good ol silent treatment and reappearing act) that I would never be "one of his side girls" That is what I called it before I knew what it was. So I made it VERY clear along the way that if and when it ends (I always knew it was a matter of time) that I will never be one of his "friends" "side girls". My therapist says he will probably come back eventually wanting to recruit me to his harem and I told her I would rather eat dirt. Not going to happen. I also told him my friends do not treat me the way he does so he is not and never will be my "friend".

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[5525]
1 hour ago

@spirtualbreakthru I slowly but surely eventually went super no contact as I call it. Everything....everything went....including any mutual friends and family. This was a slow process but I was even went to far as to block family of mine if they continued to contact him or even be fb friends with him. He has to be completely dead to me. In fact it has taken me all these months to block his son and I felt I had to do that because I knew he was checking up on me through that account.

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[5525]
1 hour ago

The thing I still cannot get over and the one thing that makes him the biggest piece of crap on earth in my mind is that he pushed a relationship with my children and I was very close to his son. In the end not one word about the kids. Not one word. Foul individual.

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