I did not realize my partner was a narcissists until very re

I did not realize my partner was a narcissists until very recently. I thought he was just a person who made some bad choices in the past, a temper and very poor emotional IQ. Then I washed my mouth out about his adult, dysfunctional kids and since then I really had to pay the price. I am being punished for speaking the truth. He criticizes everything I do, from the way I wear my hair to where I buy groceries, how I cook, how I talk (too slow, according to him), how I pronounce my own dogs and family's names, how I move...everything and anything. The joke of it all is that I have been involved with a narcissist in the past, studied their behavior and still I did not figure this one out until it was too late. I am not stupid, I have more than one degree and several certificates and diplomas, I lived a very full life and now I find myself isolated and dependent on this crazy person. He had a way of pushing me over the edge and I would forget about acting and reacting correctly and in a civilized manner and said things as they are. Now I concentrate on ignoring most of his comments and answering by answers and/or walking away. The problem is that I do not have an exit right away. We are employed as a couple. I enjoy my work and the life style, it is just him making my life miserable. He treats me like his maid...no, his stupid, uneducated maid. He throws tantrums like a child! For example if I through away a chipped coffee mug which had 'value' to him. Or I plant a tree in the garden without consulting with him first - which I do not want to do because he will a hundred excuses why a tree should not be planted where I want to plant it. He broke a newly planted young tree and told me he saw 'my' dogs doing it. He even distinguishes between his dog and my dogs. He will give his dogs titbits, she gets special food while mine gets grocery store food. He takes 'his' dog on trips and outings with him and then criticizes me when I take a dog with me in the car to go fill up on fuel. So petty! It is hard to believe an adult can behave like this.