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How do you guys remind to keep away from your Narc? What tec

How do you guys remind to keep away from your Narc? What techniques do you use? It's been a peaceful 6 months of No Contact except for seeing him peek at my profile once a month. But over time he's been trying more desperate attempts to reach out with the past week escalating with each day. How do you guys stop yourself from pitying this person you once loved and caving in?

I've blocked and ignored and he finds other ways to try sending me a message or at least showing that he has been watching and perhaps it's because I am out of it now but it is hard to hate him now, especially with this almost sad behaviour. He has been living with his new gf for several months now so I thought he'd let things go and move on but it does not appear to be the case.

However the rational side of mine remembers the pain I felt... the deep depression I was in and how I had to go to therapy and take antidepressants to feel somewhat normal. Still the more desperate he gets, the more I am inclined to give in and see if he is doing ok

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Oct 22

@nowhere2turn205 I don't pity and worry for her. Only thing I worry about is the full backlash of eventually having to look at myself and realize everything I thought I had with this person was false, so instead we double down and won't give up our hope to believe in them. really poor logic but whoever said humans were rational. being an empath sucks

5 hours ago

@charlie9898 I can totally understand that. But I think the best route is to practice self-love so that you can look at yourself and accept that you believed in a false person and be OK with it. These people are master manipulators. You were meant to be tricked. You were meant to believe. And most of all you are a wonderful person because you gave them a chance because you believed in them and their potential and have come out stronger on the other end of it now knowing how they abused this. It was hard to look at the past for what it is but it was worth all the tears and the journal pages and the therapy because I feel at peace now when I look back at the past or talk about it. It's hard to shake the pity and worry as I said, but we are all a work in progress :)

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5 hours ago

Wow! Congrats on six months! Just remember, it’s kind of like heroin....slip up one time and you’re suddenly addicted again. Whenever I find myself thinking of her, I immediately say to God “she’s in your hands” and then I force myself to concentrate on something else.


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