Hi. I'm Ashley. I just joined. And I have narcissistic inlaw

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Hi. I'm Ashley. I just joined. And I have narcissistic inlaws. I've been married for 2 years and we've been together for 5. And my mother in law loved me up until we got engaged then everything switched. She turned the entire family against me and I have suffered cyber bullying from cousins and even distant relatives my husband hasn't seen since he was a baby. EVERYONE in the family has cursed me out and threatened me. They have accused me of cheating and being a gold digger and everything in between. Last year it started becoming an everyday thing to get messages telling me to get out of their lives. It got so bad I decided to commit suicide. I failed. And was in the hospital for two weeks. My husband was terrified. When I got out of the hospital they continued pretty much immediately. So bad I had to call the police and order a warning. The police officers told me to get off of social media and block them on everything. We moved away. And I have not had contact with them in almost a year. So I'm recovering and doin well. My husband and I have never been so happy. But I still fear the future. Because we want children... And I don't want my children around that negativity and violence. But it's his family. And if my children are going to be around that I want to be there to protect them. And that means I'll have to face them again.

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Oct 5

I don't think my husband is up for moving. We did move an hour away from them. We used to be 10 minutes down the road from them. And honestly that helps. He's not going to cut his family out of his life. No matter how much I might want him to I can't ask that. Because I can't imagine my life without my family. Though my family isn't crazy. But I just can't see my children around them. We sat down last night and discussed some boundaries and everything I said he made excuses. Like I said I don't want my kids ever spending the night there. Ever. And he said that wasn't fair. It's not right and you know they r gonna fight for that. And I'm like I don't care what is fair or not and I could care less if they through a tantrum because they can't get their way. They are my children, and I will do what I have to do to protect them.

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Oct 12

hi Ashley, I am so sorry about the way your in laws are treating you. It must be so tough not only for you but for your husband, since he is caught in the middle. I am glad though, to hear that your husband is very supportive of you! Do you know why they are behaving this way towards you? Did something happen between you and your in laws when you got engaged? If you don't know, would it be any possibility for you to sit down with them and talk about the challenges you are having with them? I just prayed for you that you will feel worthy no matter how others are treating you, because you are wonderfully and beautifully made! Here is something you can check out about navigating these hurtful in law relationships: http://bit.ly/2yIauhi

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Oct 16

Thank you so much jazmanian I really appreciate it. And a minor incident happened. I was talking to my mother in law and said something "politely" that she didn't agree with. So she went back and told the whole family I had an attitude with her. And he whole family snapped at me and said I ruined the party or something. She kept going on and on about how we weren't getting more money for the wedding and that they are paying the same amount for every one of the kids weddings. That we weren't special and what not. To which I responded." we never asked for more money" and she flipped out yelling saying that I was ungrateful and all kinds of stuff. Caused this big scene at the party and everyone left because kids started crying and it was all my fault. From there everything I did was wrong and everything I didn't do was wrong. I couldn't win, unless I bowed down to her and did everything she wanted. Had the wedding her way, moved in next to them so they could control us. Even wanted me to work for her at one point. I've tried to sit down talk to them. But I could never really get a word in. It was more them cursing me and bashing me and then telling me to get out of their face. I never got to tell my side of the story.

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