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Here's another terrific example of how my narcississtic husb

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Here's another terrific example of how my narcississtic husband "appears" sweet n nice from others' perspective but really isn't...
Yesterday was the first time since he came home from his wh*re's apartment that he left to run an errand alone...he wanted me to go with him like ALWAYS...he hates going to do things by himself...I was exhausted bc I was up several times throughout the night feeding the bottle baby goat so at 6am when it was errand time I was still dead tired and said please go without me ..so he did...said all on his own that he'd go "straight there and straight back"...that was not my request....we discussed him picking up breakfast from BURGER KING...2 ham, egg, n cheese croissant sandwiches...so he said "will do"...the area he had
to go to wasn't far from the whole*re's apartment and he KNOWS that I KNOW that...he took MY car...since he was dropping the dog off to be neutered at a clinic and they were going to need paperwork for his rabies and vaccinations etc to check him in I attempted to call his m when he should've been on his way home to make sure that all the emails but faxes of the required documentation had gone through and he was able to drop the dog off without any issues...he DID NOT answer his phone...so I called a few times in a row...when he FINALLY answered I of course asked him where he was...he said McDonald's....he KNOWS I HATE MCDONALD'S... especially their breakfast and especially their new syrup filled breakfast sandwich bread: YUCK (to me it's yuck bc I'm hypoglycemic and it's just something that my body reacts badly to if I eat it)...but here's the thing: he and his wh*re ate McDonald's ALL OF THE TIME bc that's HER favorite place to eat ..I KNOW this bc he has told me numerous times that she loved McDonald's and he supposedly was so sick of eating there with HER that he'd only order french fries when they went...and he was at the McDonald's near where she lives which is most likely the one they ate at together...I asked why are you at McDonald's...he said getting breakfast like you asked me to...I said I didn't ask for McDonald's and you know that...he preceded to pretend he didn't realize they don't have croissant sandwiches and was wondering why the lady at McDonald's didn't know what breakfast sandwich he was requesting and that she rang him up for the closest thing they had to a croissant and that's what he bought...I told her m I didn't want it...he said I'll go to Burger King and I said don't bother buying another set of sandwiches...he insisted he'd make it right...when he comes home he's got both bags...I look inside the McDonald's bag bc I really wanted to see the receipt to see if she met him there and they possibly had breakfast together and that's why he didn't answer the phone...no receipt (convenient)...then he gives me a Valentine's present he got at the Kroger's by the McDonald's and claims that's where he was when I called...guess what it was...champagne with a balloon and a small 4 piece chocolate pack... blahahaha...champagne!!!!! AGAIN: I HATE champagne and he KNOWS that...it gives me a headache especially DRY champagne...and guess what...it's dry champagne...but I don't care ANYMORE...he can continue to be a mean*ss dic*wad....she's NOT getting him back...that's final!!!!! Funny thing is this: he doesn't love her either...why: bc he's a real Narcississt...she can claim it m not a doctor and can't diagnose him but I do have a psychology and biology degree and I'm pretty observant and I can say: honey: he IS a narcissist and was raised by a narcissist and lived in a closed household FULL of relayed narcississts all raised by the same narcississt he was raised by (even his neice's and nephews were raised by her bc she'd take her son's children away from her daughter in laws and raise them claiming the daughter in laws were horrible mother's)...see how a narcissist can give you a gift and it's actually an Expression of MEANNESS....his mother did the same thing several Christmas ago...I claimed she didn't GIVE gifts bc she likes to GET gifts...well next holiday was Christmas so I got a gift (just to prove me wrong)...I love candles...love many many many scents...only 2 scents I'm don't like are cinnamon and apple...guess what two scents she got me???????? SEE...gave me a present in front of everyone...looked like a generous gift giver who wanted to finally include me and show kindness to me after years of being mean...bam I open it and it's apple and cinnamon candles...I politely thanked her with a real hug and sat quietly knowing she's a real MONSTER...now that my husband knows I'm doing counseling on this group forum I guess he's angry at me bc my side gets openly told so the champagne and McDonald's was actually punishment not really a gift of thoughtfulness

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Feb 23

@mmadwaite my husband's mother puts tremendous pressure on him not to leave...he slept in a bed right next to her bed until he was nearly 41yrs old...I KNEW that was a HUGE red flag but at the time he had what I thought was a reasonable explanation...as time has gone on I realize his reason was s crock of b s...I promise you that this IS happening in our country...and it's not just "talk"...they harass you using technological means implementing badly written laws, rules, policies and procedures...

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Feb 23

I admit I don't recall your entire story. I'm amazed; no one deserves a life like this. Boy, I'd give those people a piece of my mind! Not that you should do that because everyone is different. You should do what is best for you and is within your emotional capabilities. I'd be very uncomfortable and sad to be living there.

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Feb 23

@mmadwaite
It's uncomfortable bc I don't trust them ..but it's farm country so my neighbors are far away and I can go in my barn and spend quiet time with my livestock...so it's not sad...some people need slot of other people in their daily life to feel happy...some people actually have the opposite effect when there are too many people in their lives...I'm an HSP, highly sensitive person...it's a real thing...you can look up articles on psychology today website...we process the world deeply and sometimes it gets overwhelming so when undo outside stress, anxiety, and in your face pressure are added to the equation of also having cptsd, the best thing to do is retreat...pull back from society and reground myself in the peace and quiet of my home with my loving, sweet, docile animals...the house has only been quiet a short while and I feel TERRIFIC now...my mind has settled a d that upset feeling has dissipated...I'm fine...my bottle baby goat is growing and he's super happy and that brings me joy...the new livestock has grown to love and trust me so they are coming over to get hugs n kisses regularly now...the home front vibe has returned to a healthy and balanced level...he's not here to throw his pry bar into it whenever he sees me happy...I swear he loved to give me things I loved, let me get attached to them, then destroy them just to hurt me...it was a cycle...I called it circle, circle, circle...he was like an elevator conductor...for days: "going up" THEN "oh, wait time to plummet to the ground floor"...he didn't like consistency...but how could he bc his home life as a child was EXTREMELY inconsistent...his mother was awful! His older brothers and sisters don't know how good they had it while their dad was alive to keep things running smoothly...they were all of adult age when my husband got stuck alone with his mother...they weren't raised the same way...

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