Has anyone found after a period of healing and progress, tha

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Has anyone found after a period of healing and progress, that something happens and you are reminded of areas that are not as healed as you thought. For example, I have no interest at all in contacting mine, don't miss him, don't have any regrets. Have accepted things for what they are. I am happier now than I was before. That all being said, today I was reminded how insecure I am and how low my self esteem is as a result of everything he put me through. I did not realize how comfortable I am now at staying at home, other than work. It then caused me to become very frustrated that while I am stuck doing all this self discovery and healing just to be able to live and move on in life, he's out enjoying himself doing just fine. Found this to be a bit discouraging today.

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Sep 14

You need to separate your persona from your own thoughts. One thing that helps me a lot is meditating and by doing it at the same time labeling my thoughts. For example, I imagine my mind as a drawer and each box is a category. Every time a memory pops up into my mind I put it in the box of "memories", every time I have an image of him on my mind I put it on the "past" category. Same with fears, emotions, future plans, hypothesis, needs...I started just by labeling feelings and thoughts. In distancing ourselves from negative thinking, we recognize that we are not our thoughts.

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Sep 14

@Yoggifree That is a very good idea. Thank you I will give that a try.

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Sep 14

Wow reading through the whole thread of comments I'm just saying yes, true to everything. I moved to a new city and fortunately my narc can't come there because he has no car and no license so he has to stay close to the job. We work at the same place but it's so big we don't have to see each other. But if I'm going near a place he might be I try to speed on through as not to see him. I went no contact changing all my,ways of contact so he cant. The last stretch attempt he could use is saying he wants to see,my children, which he won't do because hell have to stay sober for a day

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