Does anyone have any advice on how to leave a relationship w

Does anyone have any advice on how to leave a relationship with a narcissist. I finally feel like I'm ready after years of emotional abuse, lies, and the discarding me for a new supply then coming back with the love bombing. I have always gave him multiple chances due to us having a child together, but now I'm ready to be done. I have tried a couple times breaking up with him but he's really good at controlling the situation and basically blackmailing me into is staying together. The times we've broken up in the past we had a custody placement set but now that we are together we don't go by that anymore but whenever obtrusive to break up with him he'll at the last minute say he won't watch our daughter then when I have to work or if he knows I have things planned in the future with our daughter he'll say well that technically would be my day and I won't let you have her if we aren't together. Also when I try to break up with him he'll get very angry and say comments to me that I would be better off 6 feet under and that I'm a waste of space, etc..

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Jan 15

@aro777 Have you tried to retain a lawyer and pursue an eviction? What about possibly waiting until lease is up and moving?

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14 hours ago

He sounds like a total control freak, just like my husband. I know one of the group members, her ex wouldn't even leave, her house. So she had to wait til they were on a trip, come home early and change the locks I think. With covid, here in CA, they won't even let you kick anyone out of your house and closed the courts mostly. So a person has to get really creative. One friend of mine couldn't get rid of a deadbeat and had to put his sofa sleeper in the trash while the guy was gone for the day. I'm sure some other states are better about domestic situations. I just know you'll come up with a good exit strategy and get past this. It's only a matter of time.

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13 hours ago

When it came to my ex husband, 30 years ago, I had to sneak and find a new apartment. Then when he was gone one day I packed my moving van and took the kids. He stalked me and I had to get a restraining order and he was eventually arrested. I know it is hard to do. A person in your situation needs a lot of support and usually doesn't have enough. But think about it, he's drunk those times. Can't be very good daycare. : (

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