My husband says he's a visual person when it comes to that s

My husband says he's a visual person when it comes to that sex we rarely have it and when we do and always face down in a pillow so we have no intimate connection. The only time I climax is when I'm alone. There's no foreplay I'm just supposed to be ready to go with the constant arguing it's hard to ever feel in the mood. But he gets it when he wants it. He never does anything different anymore than the same thing it's always me face down in the pillow and then a few minutes later it's over. I just don't understand. If he's so visual why am I in the least flattering position?

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kelly72's picture
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Apr 16

I'm sure most would agree that Narcs are sexually deviant. Most can't even get off without something weird in the equation. They have to control. It has to be something other than one on one intimacy, they just can't go there. The only way to escape being used this way and have any hope of an intimate relationship is get away from them, completely! You'll never know the deep love and joy of sexual intimacy with a narcissist. Just look at the very definition of a narcissist and it explains why.

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lostandfoundtn's picture
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Apr 16

@romazicon8 Your description was incredibly accurate. He was exactly like that. Always willing and ready, multiple times a day. At first it was amazing to be that wanted, made me feel beautiful, but then it became more like I was his toy, or a tool to get what he wanted. Always on his terms and he could stop at any moment and hold out for weeks. I knew the control part of it was a narc trait, not the frequency or appetite. Because it is a good source of fuel or supply?

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kelly72's picture
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Apr 16

@lostandfoundtn Agreed, and leverage. How sick.

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