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Epiphany+ activity question: 1. The narcissist requires you

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Epiphany+ activity question: 1. The narcissist requires you to put your emotional needs aside unless it relates to them somehow. I generalized that to all people, and am on constant alert, as a result of chronic complex trauma over the course of years. 2. Activity Question: Put the focus on you. What do you need to nourish your heart with right now? (answer for me: I need to enjoy my alone time in the present. I am so grateful for myself. I want to accept myself and stop apologizing and wishing someone qould tell me I dont have to apologize, they never will! I simply have to stop apologizing for things Im not sorry about!)

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Blueberries1234's picture
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Nov 8

@help2help I dont think you are being negative at all!!! It's a valid point. It also is a trigger for you and we all have them. You could use a different word. Like instead of "self care" you could say "--your name---time" or call it "validation" or "bro time" or "empowerment day" "creative time". or simply "chill pill hour". :p whatever you want. it doesnt matter what you call it. You have to put your own oxygen mask on before others'. "oxygen mask time"? And another thing you could do is reclaim the phrase for yourself, because being selfishly a narcissist is the opposite of self care, it's other harm. But here is a really funny youtube video that might validate you a little. it's college humor. really funny
https://youtu.be/S3awnCB18Fw

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Nov 8

@preciousgirl i love it. yea i think that perfection thing is really what kills our efforts sometimes from even starting. so "practice makes progress" is genius. I might use that and make it my own for follwoing my dreams (stuff Ive put off because it wasnt 'acceptable' as a path to pursue).

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18 hours ago

In my experience, narcissists are excellent actors. They can display what looks like empathy for your feelings during the love bombing stage, but there will be hints. In current relationships look for those hints. One may be the attention they pay to others, whether they are constantly checking their phones, etc.

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