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Hello, new here. I've become so desperate, depressed and lon


Hello, new here. I've become so desperate, depressed and lonely that I've turned to the internet as I feel is my only source that will actually listen to me. Im married and have twin boys (1yr) and I just dont know who I am anymore. I work full time and so does my husband, but he puts no effort towards helping me do anything. Im so stressed out and tired. I work in the mental health field and let me tell you after working a full day with 10+ clients it is exhausting. Anyways, he expects me to do everything, make dinner clean the house do laundry make sure everything is neat and organize. I just don't have any energy to all that day in and day out. He's also on this health craze where he wants to me to work out. Yes I get it i don't look as great as I did before but he doesn't understand how hard it really is. Some days I just put the kids to bed and sit in my closet and cry because I don't know what else to do. Other days I just want to pack up my things and leave. I just really don't know what to do with life. I didn't know life would be this hard. I never expected to ever feel this way. I love my kids but I don't know if I'm made out to be a mom or wife.

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Sep 10

I also came to this page tonight feeling just like you I have a 1 year old daughter and I stay with her day in and day out and I clean and try to be a good mom and here I am at the end of the night watching them sleep crying because I think I am not good enough, my baby’s dad doesn’t even touch me anymore so at least your husband wants to do things with you but i also wonder if I’m made out to be a mom I’m obviously not good enough to be his wife, I wish I could give you happy advice but I feel the same as you, like this is the hardest life, and I chose it, I feel like I’m stuck.

Sep 11

Welcome to SG, TwinMom!
I'm so sorry to hear about your struggles. I know how difficult and exhausting it must be for you to work and keep up with your home. Do you and your husband communicate well with each other? Marriage is not about one-man army. Maybe you both can talk and decide on how well you can get things done. I'd also suggest that you talk to a couple counselor. I just said a prayer for you, and I hope that God will provide the strength and help you need at this time. Hope you guys work through this. Hugs & prayers.

Sep 12

I don't think husbands fully understand what all moms/wives have to deal with on a daily basis! Men have a one-track mind, but women are able to think about 10 different things at once. It's just how God made us. I definitely know how you feel. My husband sounds just like yours. He would love for me to wake up at 5 am to go to the gym like he does, but hello, I can't leave my kid at home alone! I do all the cooking, cleaning, and he does a lot of messing up and not helping. But after 10 years I have accepted it and have embraced that this is what I have to do to get things going in my house. He has become a LOT more sensitive to me and has quit complaining about certain things but he doesn't understand all it takes. So I am here for you, mama! Thank you for working and caring and loving and all of the things you are doing. I think you are fulfilling your purpose in life right now by doing what you are doing. Your purpose may not FEEL very fun right now, but it will definitely get better!!!!

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