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He tells me he wants some "me" time to go drink with some fr

He tells me he wants some "me" time to go drink with some friends and watch a basketball game. He does this 2-3 times a week. I am a SAHM. While he was getting ready I put away all groceries, meal prepped for the week, bagged up 2 pounds of hamburger meat, cleaned the dishes, and did 2 loads of laundry. I did all of this while my 6 month old screamed on the floor wanting to be held. My husband heard him cry when he got out of the shower but the basketball game streaming on his phone was much more important. I got in the shower and he tried to give me a kiss/tell me goodbye but I was too disgusted to look at him. I got out of the shower and he was gone. My baby was in the living room floor screaming along with my 2 year old playing at her doll house. I then got myself ready for bed while I heard crying the entire time. I got them both ready for bed and now laying here sobbing. Please someone tell me that I'm not alone in this. Please.

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Nov 8

@backtonormal what a great comment!!!

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Nov 8

been there and its frustrating. one thing you can do when he comes at you saying he needs "me time", is say okay, enjoy yourself but ask for one thing you need before he goes. You don't need to convince him why you need his help with the kids, just state how you feel and one clear, simple example of what you want help with. acknowledge any effort he makes to encourage more.
One thing that helps me when I think my partner is unreasonable: Validate his feelings, but don't tolerate the hurtful behavior. (makes him more receptive)

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Nov 8

@backtonormal thank you for sharing your encouraging story. I have started using the principles you mention here, and can definitely say it works.

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