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Lately I’m having to deal with unresolved feelings about t

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Lately I’m having to deal with unresolved feelings about the loss of my babies. Although I lost them over a year ago and I have had a baby 7 months ago, I’m still having days where I feel incomplete and depressed and when I look at my baby I feel a mixture of love and grief. I feel like I can’t talk to anyone about it because half of the time I’m just written off and my feelings pushed aside. I’m not sure how much longer I can handle these thoughts or emotions before I crack and leave my husband or burn bridges with all of my friends. At the same time I feel like it’s just my postpartum making me feel this way and yet still the group of friends and family I have often make me feel like I can ignore these feelings and that they will just go away on their own. I haven’t told some of them that I haven’t come to terms with both losses of my unborn children, or that my depression is what makes me not want to be around them most of the time, and I haven’t done this because of other friends and family members that tell me to suck it up or that it’s all in my head and that nothing is wrong with me. I think those things being said to me is making it all worse but because of my group of friends being so small already I feel that if I say something I’ll lose all of my friends and even though I don’t want to see people from time to time it doesn’t mean I don’t want them there later when I do have good days, as sparse as they may be.

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Jul 12

Miscarriage is very painful. I can understand your situation. You have to be strong. There is some treatment of infertility.IVF and surrogacy are one of them. Surrogacy is the best treatment for infertility. I also become a mother through surrogacy. Actually, I'm a heart patient. My doctor said to me that I cannot conceive. Then we decided to move to Europe for surrogacy. Now I have my cutie pie. You don't have a need to worried. I think you should go with surrogacy. I wish you to become a mother soon.

Jul 12

Miscarriage is very sad and very traumatic. It is a real loss of real child and is worthy of grief. The fact that you have a baby and are feeling this way could very well be postpartum depression and when you couple that to the grief of miscarriage, you have been given a "double whammy" to deal with. This is real and cannot just be pushed aside. I know this is true. I have had multiple miscarriages and needed time to recover from my grief. Have you ever considered counseling? I just saw an article this morning that was discussing how to know if you need to talk to a professional. Here is the web address in case you care to look at it:

I will be praying for your healing and for you to be comforted. God bless.

Jul 21

Always try to contact renowned clinics. I had bad experience with lotus clinic. The clinic is bad that it doesn't replied to its clients. I was from Japan i was also looking for a clinic myself. We moved to Europe to find a good clinic. In Europe we roamed for 4 months in search of good clinics but didn't found one. Than we searched for clinics from internet. On internet there were many clinics mentioned on different forums. We traced a good clinic from Ukraine. The clinic is very good. I contacted them over the web via emails. They responded us and we have some discussions. Than i told them about my issue of infertility. I was infertile due to hysterectomy cancer. The clinic gave us a date for meeting and we moved to Ukraine. After some documentation and paperwork we started our surrogacy journey. The clinic provided a very good surrogate. Now our surrogate is pregnant with our twin daughters. Soon we will have our babies. Good luck everyone.


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