Hello. The reason I am here is because I don’t know how to

Hello. The reason I am here is because I don’t know how to deal with my feelings of grief over my miscarriage. It’s been five months and it was my first pregnancy. My husband and I have been trying for three months. Apart of me wonders if I am struggling with depression. I have no motivation for anything. I am worried something is wrong with me because I often fee this way. No one has come along side me in this miscarriage. I have no idea what to expect or how to get through this. I am scared I am not strong enough to work through this on my own. My husband seems to finally understand why this has impacted my personhood as a woman and so he won’t bring up continuing to try. I think I have battled anxiety too. It’s hard not to feel like something is wrong with me and that I have failed my husband and just being a woman. I know I’m my head it wasn’t my fault but it’s like I resent myself for not carrying a healthy baby. I am crying over the loss of something so precious and on top of that I can’t seem to get pregnant. I have so much anxiety over this I don’t know what to do. I don’t think my husband really knows how much I am drowning.

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CKBlossom's picture
Jan 11

Oh hun, this happens, I am so sorry though that it did. It is sad and frustrating, but you didn't do anything to cause this. I know you are sad and hurting, but don't mourn alone or cut your husband off. He is hurting too. Talk about it together, make a plan to talk to your doctor about when it is okay and safe to try again. Hugs!

Jan 12

Friend, what you are going through is difficult and there are many who have and are going through what you have. Miscarriages are very common and I believe with my whole heart that they happen because God knows that the baby is not strong enough to make it on it’s own and these babies are in heaven now. I get through difficult times in my life by spending time praying to God, the Creator of it all who loves us very much, controls it all and knows exactly what we are going through. Check out Youversion.com for daily inspiration. “Draw near to God and He will draw near to you.” James 4:8

9 hours ago

I'm so sorry for your loss, friend. My heart ached as I read your post, and I wish I could give you a hug. Please know that it's not your fault and you don't need to be hard on yourself. What has happened is beyond your control. It hurts, and yet the hurting isn't all bad, because it's a part of the love you feel for your baby. It's important to let yourself go through the process and give yourself as much time as you need. Please get some help. I'd suggest that you talk to a grief counselor. You might also want to check out the book, I'll Hold You in Heaven, by Jack Hayford. I said a prayer for you, and I hope that God will surround you with His comfort and heal you whenever you hurt. You can always come here to share, and we're all here to support you. I know it's not easy, but stay strong. Sending hugs & prayers your way!


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